Faking it
BY GREER MCDONALDChicks fake it.
I'm not going to lie to you; we do it. 
(A quick disclaimer here: I've been blessed to not have been in a lot of situations where faking it was necessary.)
But here's the deal: guys and girls are very different when it comes to duvet dancing action and what we need and desire.
Aside from those who subscribe to religions where sex is purely for procreation, most of us enjoy sex as a healthy part of an intimate relationship.
For boys, the end result is as obvious as the plot of a B-grade movie.
But for girls - well, we're precious wee flowers.
We're often so self-conscious, so worried that our partner is enjoying themselves, so giving and caring, that we forget about ourselves.
And you know what? Breaking news, guys: for girls, it's not all about the end result.
Not having to fake it = awesome.
Having to fake it on the odd occassion = not the end of the world.
True story.
According to this article (NSFW), there are a number of other reasons why girls fake it - such as, she can't be bothered; prolonging things is not needed; and because, well, it was just never going to happen.
They reckon 70 per cent of ladies fake it at some stage in their lives. That must mean that the other 30 per cent don't even bother doing that.
The main point is: when - or if - she does, she's doing so from a place of love.
It doesn't mean she doesn't like you or isn't happy. She can be all of those things and still fake it.
Because here's the thing: we fake stuff all the time. As a rule, we (and I'm talking about boys and girls now) fake things as a way of coping and making our way through this crazy world.
We do so to save others heartache.
Is it any different to telling white lies to spare someone's feelings if they ask about a new (bad) haircut?
That said, a girl SHOULD NOT fake it every time or else the bloke is going to think he's doing the right thing - and that's not fair on either party.
So, do you think it's wrong to fake "it"? Guys - would you be gutted if a girl faked it? Girls - what else should guys know? Keep the comments clean please.
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I think most guys know that girls fake it now and again, its kind of funny when the girl does the whole wannabe porn star routine.
Girls probably don't realise that guys can fake it too, I know I have. Usually when the girl is doing her best log impression, if she's not into it I have better things to do with my time. Like watch telly.
It's the journey not the destination and all that, but you can tell a real orgasm cos no woman can fake that physical reaction (the noise certainly) but not the muscular contractions.
I think I've faked it more than girls I've been with.
i have never faked "it" (and hope to never have to?).
Personally i just don't see the point - if you're not into it on the odd occasion, that's fine, just tell your parter that, like you said, it's not the end of the world, and noones feelings should have to get hurt, sometimes its just not going to happen for whatever reason.
Am i alone in thinking this? why fake it?!! sorry, struggling to see why you would...? i know i would be pretty hacked off if my partner faked it! (even though its a bit harder for guys! lol)
If you want to fake it every so often that's fine but don't go using that information in an argument later on!
I would prefer if a chick didn't fake it. That way I would know that more work is required on my part. Yeah I love finishing, but for me..it's about knowing that the person i'm bumping uglies with is having a great time.
Otherwise i'd buy a blowup friend.
I've rarely faked it. Normally the mister was good enough that I didn't have to - but sometimes we would be too drunk and I just really couldn't be bothered. And I know if I don't get off, he'll keep going until I do. Which could be hours. So... to save myself being rubbed raw, the rare occasional I'll fake it. But I do enjoy his effort and that he's enjoying himself - because really, I did too.
New guy though? He's uh... like a Chihuahua in bed. And I'm the leg. I may have to cut him loose, because it's just not going to work out...
Great comments Greer but what about when the boot is on the other foot (so to speak) and the bloke doesnt finish?
Does it still "= not the end of the world?" Yeah Right!! Or would this situation make all your comments irrelevant?
News flash - boys fake it too.......probably not as often, certainly not as studied.....but I can recall an occasion or 2 where the rumpty has lost the pumpty & all I wanted to do was get it over & done with without my partner thinking she was unapealling....
Guys would so fake it if they could.
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I am curious as to how everyone is going to keep it clean! haha. I don't agree that for every guy it is just the end result that is important. I certainly enjoy the build up, the foreplay, and above all, the female orgasm. A woman in orgasm is such an erotic thing. And I am surely not alone in this. Many men must feel the same way. I could happily enjoy sex where the woman is completely satisfied, and I don't get to finish. Surely if it was just about the end result....well, frankly, we could sort that out by ourselves!