Or get one of your boys to bash him for being an idiot. Not exactly the right response, I know, but after a year of putting up with that crap, I'm suprised you haven't done it yourself already. Kudos for you for being the bigger person that long though. I know I couldn't have done it.

I think the cold shoulder is definitely the way to go. My skipper has an ex who wont let go. They dated about 7 years ago and she still carries on. When he was first with me she would send him texts messages telling him he was the love of her life (she was with another guy at this time and she knew he was with me), telling him she was getting married (she wasnt) and even moving cities to be closer to him. It drove me nuts and he was enabling her by pandering to her and her crazy whims. He was adamant that he didnt want to be with her and so I told him that if he wanted to be with me he would learn that to be cruel is to be kind. He doesnt reply to her messages anymore, and as a result they have almost disappeared (Its been three years so a long time in the making but well worth the patience it required). He now realises that if he doesnt cut contact that she will string him along in whatever capacity she can, and he's not willing to risk his relationship with me for any kind of relationship with her.

Its a really tricky one, but you really have to keep your head about you and ensure you dont let him see you lose your cool. Stay calm, unprovoked and collected, and one day he will tire of his childish attitude towards you. Either that, or his attentions will be directed towards someone else and you will be off the hook. To quote Rachel and Pascal, its not going to happen overnight, but it will happen.

This should be interesting as Im currently one of "the cant let go" guys...

OK, he sounds like a nutcase, and you both sound young, so, tell him to suck it up and move on. "It was a year ago, let it go!". haha my ex was like that too

Restraining order is one thing that comes to mind. I'm not sure if that is still being the bigger person or not though.

I agree with Greer about ignoring texts, but that can get very hard. You can get individual numbers blocked so you don't get the texts and calls, it might be an idea so you don't get woken up in the middle of the night.

Just remember when he is making these public displays that he is embarrassing himself, making himself look bad. Try not to let it get to you, even if you have to imagine he is talking about someone else.

Don't let him drag you aside, if he tries, ignore him, and definitely don't let him dictate what parties you can or can't go to.

If all else fails, get one of your guy mates to give him a couple of friendly jabs, tell him to buck his ideas up and to snap out of it.

Yeah, good advice Greer.

I've been as silly as 'The Biggest Person's' former other half before, although I didn't compose songs, turn up to parties uninvited or the like. I can be accused of sending the odd long winded text. While the actual relationship was only short, it was pretty intense and came after about 9 months of friendship and pretty intense flirting.

These days I still see her around, say hi and that. I still consider her a friend but we don't really hang out that much.

I haven't seen her for a while

I agree with Greer - keep up what you are doing, you are definitely better off being the "bigger person" in all of this. Eventually he will move on. Absolutely block him from facebook - this should stop him from even being able to see any tagged photos of you and even if he does, he won't be able to comment on them. I bet your mutual friends are getting sick of him too and eventually you won't have to worry about the parties - cos he won't be getting invites anymore if he keeps that behaviour up.

Agree with Greer, stay the bigger person. Everyone is already probably thinking he is a tard anyway.

Also if you stoop to his level he will beat you with experience.

while its horrendously annoying to put up with, all the negativity he keeps throwing out will only come out to smack him in the face HARD. That said I really really admire you for being the bigger person because I can think of many (creative and a few not so legal) things I'd LOVE to do to such a cretanous human if they'd been working at me for so long..

oooh fingers are itching to write ideas down.. eeeeee...will go do filing now :)