Real Housewives of Auckland's Angela Stone responds to 'plus-size' jibe
OPINION: I was initially surprised when Michelle Blanchard called me "plus-sized" in the first episode of The Real Housewives of Auckland, because I have never worn plus-sized clothing (usually size 16 up) and I didn't understand why she would refer to me in that way.
I quickly realised what she was implying, which was when the anger kicked in.
Why would someone say this to me in a negative way, with the intention of hurting me? Why those words as insult? Clearly, Michelle does not understand that all women are different, and our unique sizes and shapes are what make us beautiful. So I decided to write this piece to tell all you women out there – I'm with you.
Being plus-size is not an insult and should never be used as one or considered negative. It's 2016 – we have a plus size model on the cover of Sports Illustrated's Swimsuit Issue.
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If grown women still do not realise that comments like these are not only shallow and unnecessary but completely misguided, then we should be ashamed. Why use plus-size as an insult? Why make women believe that they are unattractive or abnormal because their bodies are a certain size?
Plus-size should be a compliment! These women have beautiful figures, showing the diversity of the female form. These models help break through the inaccurate and unrealistic representation of women that the media often presents us with.
We're all real women – no matter our size. We should be celebrating our uniqueness and supporting one another as women, not looking down on each other or picking each other apart.
Michelle also suggests that all models are size 8. This is incorrect. Models now come in all sorts of sizes, to better represent the female figure. In addition, Michelle's comment implies that size 8 is how women should be. With the average size of New Zealand women being 14, this places the majority of us in the 'abnormal' category.
The truth of the matter is that women's bodies should not 'be' a certain way at all. There's no rule book for what a woman should or shouldn't look like to be viewed as beautiful or normal.
I am the first to admit that I have never been a size 8, and have never tried to be either. I am 5"11 and would obviously not fit into size 8 clothing. Why should I be made to feel that this is a bad thing?
The answer is simple. I shouldn't. No one should.
Whatever size you are, whatever age, shape and skin colour – you are you, and that is more than enough. Don't let others convince you that you aren't gorgeous, because they are wrong. Those who judge only define who they are, not you.