Moata's Blog Idle

@traditionalist - Your suggestion to a woman getting pregnant by accident is far more outrageous than a debate over 'stay at home mums versus working mothers'. Why - because it's a complete disregard for a human being's reproductive rights, and therefore a disregard of human rights - you might think that's extreme, but it's the truth.

And yes me, and every person will judge it since you've put out there in this public forum - I am pretty sure the Human Rights Commission will judge it also. So will every man and woman in a supposedly committed, loving and equal partnership - you want to jeopardise that yourself, fine - but to suggest it to others anarchy,

And if a woman is desperate for a child - well go use a sperm bank, not another person. And you talk of happy families you know of from your experience - yes 'happy' families created out of deception and manipulation, poked holes in condoms, tampered birth control, and dare I say rape (more so a woman than a man). Far be it for me to suggest children be conceived out of love, passion, trust and mutual consent (not forgetting birth control isn't always 100%)

You can preach till the cows come home (and it will be till the cows come home and pigs fly before you persuade this group of people here, and elsewhere) that a marriage's survivability is based on a woman giving up her career (and herself) for a man - if a man's ego can't take it, then he's not worth it. A bit too 'Forsyte Sage for me!

And by the way there's nothing wrong with being PC feminists - women have worked bloody hard to get where we are after centuries of inequality, sexism and no legal rights.

@traditionalist - are you kidding? You think that commenting about how to raise children on a blog about how to raise children is the same as advocating trapping someone into having a child against their knowledge???I'm flabbergasted!

And as for your anti-feminist sentiment, I'm thrilled to be a feminist, I'm proud to promote equality for women. If you had girls, I'd hope that you would want a world of equal opportunity for them.

@Kathleen, I'm a medical researcher. Count on being in your late 20s by the time you finish studying, and a massive debt too (unless your private school fee parents are so rich they can pay you through university too). You might struggle even to get a mortgage with this debt behind you. Then after you leave to care for your children for so long, you will be mired in debt & unable to return to your profession. Nice ideals, but not realistic.

To those who replied to me (#81 and #83):

Whoops! I was a little unclear and pretentious- I was mentioning education because an earlier comment said something about girls not receiving education and begin taught to stay home etc. I mentioned my school and then edited it our for anonymity reasons, replacing that with private which I see, reading back on it, was a silly thing to do.

I should have made "time out" clearer too- I mean time out of full time work so I would still be involved in part time work and/or research. I understand twelve or so years is a LONG time out of any profession, especially one as fast-moving as medicine.

Hopefully having my own children would help me in that field of work too, so all would not count against me.

:)