If the tall girl can't live with it, and it is making her uncomfortable then she probably should part ways with the man before either get too involved in each other's lives. If she is not happy now, it is probably going to stay that way.

I'm just a hint under six foot, and I'd have to say that I don't think it would even occur to me that I'd have any issues dating a lady who was a couple of inches taller than me.

My girlfriend on the other hand might have strong objections to me doing so.

If you are so shallow that you will reject someone based on a physical feature that they have no control over, good luck on finding *anyone*.

It's little wonder there is a claimed man-drought when in fact it's that no male will ever measure up to the incredibly limiting criteria that you ladies seem to decide is essential.

If he is ok with the height difference then you should go for it, he's isnt that much shorter than you. However, if either of you have a problem with it then it could become an issue later on.

This is one of those weird its okay for a guy but not for a girl things huh. All of us females are looking for someone taller than us , but when the guys shorter than us its not okay , come on guys , thats double standards!! If the guy is right he is right , it is your own insecurities showing here , im sorry Greer but im on the opposite side of this one. Size shouldnt matter and if it does youre too shallow and they should leave themselves , next you; be leaving someone becuase they dont like the same songs , shallow ladies , shallow

Is height really that big a deal to girls? I mean I'm over 6 foot and I've never felt my height has worked favourably for me in situations with girls, heck even at my height I've been with a few women taller than myself.

Shouldn't women find a guy attractive no matter what his height?

The guy sounds great, and she seems to be into him so what's the problem?! I actually think it's a wee bit shallow sorry Tall Girl.

Like Greer said, it's something you can either get over, or not. If you can't, then let him go now before it goes much further, but don't be the stink guy and tell him it's because he is short. Height is something that you can't do anything about.

If you can get over it, I suggest you swap your platforms for ballet flats and don't wear your hair like Marge Simpson.

I hear what you're saying, and its not necessarily cool to feel bigger/heavier than your man, but its hard enough to find love in this world without putting too many "ideal" parameters around your choice of partner (I mean, no ones perfect! Are you?) Ssome things you definitely cant compromise on; like your partner should be unquestionably faithful, honest, and have a good character etc, but surely the ideal of your partner being taller than you can be a compromise if it means you are happy, loved etc? When you are in bed together, I bet the height difference isnt such an issue!! ;-)

As has been stated many times on this blog and in the comments, there is no such thing as a perfect guy/girl. Just perfect for you, everyone has flaws, to have a long successful relationship you need a match with someone who has flaws that you can live with.

Some people can live with the height issue, some people can't, it really comes down to how much of an issue you want to make it.

For me, I prefer to date woman who are shorter than me, it doesn't have to be alot, fortunately its not a big ask as I stand an average 180cm. However, I did recently date a woman who was a good couple of cm taller than me, and it was a little uncomfortable. I asked a friend of mine about her preferences and she said the guy had to be taller.

On saying that, as an observer of a relationship where the guy is a fair bit shorter than the girl, its not something that seems odd (they make a good pair) which leads me to believe that it doesn't matter what other people think, and suggests that our perception of what other people are thinking can be quite different from reality.

Well being a tall girl myself standing at 5'10" I dated a guy that was 5'2" now it wasn't just the height that made this strange buy he is scrawny as (and becuase of his height he could really only get boys clothes) and I'm a bigger girl. This never bothered me or him, we ignored any strange looks from people because we loved each other and were happy. Don't feel put off just because he's a little shorter or smaller in size, it's how he makes you feel as a person that's important.

Hmmm interesting one, personally I am always attracted to taller men, and I do believe a certain level of physical attraction is important in a relationship.

Sounds like 'tall girl' is still attracted to the guy, in which case I suspect she will probably stop noticing his height after a while. At the end of the day - as you say greer - no-ones perfect, so if everything else is great then it seems rather shallow to not try to get over the height thing, especially if its more to do with society than her own opinion.

But on the other hand I don't think its wrong if she decides she isn't attracted to him enough to make a successful relationship. Everyone is attracted to different things, none of which are right or wrong IMO.