The sounds of violence

Last updated 08:34 02/11/2009

Ears.  I've got two (as is the norm for anyone who isn't Vincent Van Gogh) and I don't know if they could truly be described as "shell-like" but on the whole I'm fairly happy with them. 

Na na na na I can't hear youThey're not too sticky-outy, good for dangling earrings off and holding on sunglasses, and more or less function as they should, although I've abused all heck out of them by placing them up front at a lot of concerts over the years...not to mention the karaoke they've endured.  They were once subjected to a performance of Crying by a Roy Orbison wannabe that still gives me nightmares.

When you think about it our ears are so very vulnerable.  If you see something disagreeable you can close your eyes.  Taste something foul?  Spit it out.  Smell something horrid?  Breathe with your mouth (thereby inhaling all the tiny particles of noisome badness - so you're screwed either way really). 

But it's a bit more difficult with offensive sounds, isn't it?  Sure you can clap your hands over your ears or stick your fingers in and sing "na-na-na-nah, I'm not listening, na-na-na" (I always do it do the tune of this song - which I only just realised is actually sung by a man; I could have sworn that was a woman).  However, I would argue that these are all totally insufficient because there's only so long that you can jam your hands against your head before you give yourself a migraine, or arm-cramps, or people start mistaking you for Macaulay Culkin.  Somehow the annoying sound will always get past your best efforts to block it.  It can be totally relentless (a bit like the IRD).

And the effect that a truly grating sound has on you is profound.  If you're anything like me it starts subtly.  I hunch my shoulders.  I flinch and squint my eyes.  Then I might move into a little bit of clenching and unclenching of the fists.  Often my jaw sets and my molars lock against each other and there'll be a lot of head-whipping in the direction of the offending sound.  In my mind it's a bit like the point of view of the Terminator.  Everything is washed in red (the colour of anger) and multiple sights and cross-hairs roam the area as I search out my target.  All that's missing really is the spectacular physique, cold emotionless stare and automatic weapons.  "Shut the hell up if you want to live," you might say.

A stellar example of this very phenomenon occurred yesterday, and ironically it was in the happiest place in the world...that's right, No.1 Shoe Warehouse.  When I'm walking the aisles of this, my church, I am at peace.  This is my zen garden, my tai chi, my massive bowl of chocolate mousse that they always have for dessert at buffet restaurants.  I am the very picture of calm and serenity (should serenity be found with her jeans legs rolled up to her knees admiring her pins in successive pairs of impractical footwear).  But serenity took a beating yesterday at the hands of... an adorable toddler.

I don't know who the bright spark was that first had the idea of taking the plastic squeaker that you usually find in a dog toy and putting it into the soles of shoes made for very small children but I'd like to perform "Chinese water torture" on them.  However, instead of dripping water on to their forehead I'm going to drip it on to their eyeball and instead of water I'm going to use lemon juice. 

The rhythmic squeaking of a cute little moppet as she happily ran up and down, trying out her new shoes, brought on all of the symptoms mentioned above up to and including "the red mist".  One part of my brain was able to be rational: "It's just a cute wee girl.  She means no harm. An act of violence is not justifiable in this instance." But the affronted part of me was baying for blood or silence, preferably both.  But what was amazing was that the parents of the child didn't seem bothered at all.

There's not much that could force me out of a shoe shop in a pay week but this very nearly did it.  Mind you, could have been worse, we shoppers might have been serenaded by a bagpipe and kazoo orchestra accompanying Wing in a tribute to Miley Cyrus on a badly feedbacking sound system.

The sounds that set people on edge are many and strange, I think.  One of my mother's friends admitted once that she couldn't stand the sound of a comb going through her own wet hair, which is something that has never bothered me in the slightest.  Other things like fingernails tracing a painful path down a blackboard seem more universally loathed.  So what discordant sounds get you disgruntled?  Have you ever committed an act of violence against the source of an unpleasant aural experience? (Kicking a snorer counts.)

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Katherine   #1   09:02 am Nov 02 2009

I used to be bothered exactly this amount by the sound of a baby crying or a toddler whining. But then I read a lot of people's stories on the internet (blogs and forums) and I became more tolerant. It hardly bugs me at all now. Unless it goes on forever. Stuck on a train with a whiny toddler for 12 hours... Why would you take a kid that small on a train for 12 hours? You must have known he would whine, you're his parents! Argh. *puts pillow around head*

Thalia   #2   09:07 am Nov 02 2009

What really gets me is the scraping of cutlery on a plate. I've never been the perpetrator of violence towards anyone over aural unpleasantness but I've been on the receiving end of some, I snore a bit... worse when the hayfever is in full swing or any time during the winter so when occassionally I have to share accommodation I find that people throw things at me or i get a jab to make me stop.. which of course wakes me up.

I also have a friend that detests the sound of people eating or chewing so no food should be consumed in her presence.. this was forgotten when I bought a bag of munchos at the gas station and consumed them in the car on our nonstop trip from Palmy to Auckland.. I eventually noticed her twitching and stopped eating before she drove us into the path of oncoming traffic.

Mongo   #3   09:11 am Nov 02 2009

Karaoke "Big O - Crying" - that's ambitious. I once heard someone take on "Bohemiam Rhapsody". The memory still gives me chills.

I hate the sound of tyres skidding under hard braking. Even at a distance. When I hear that sound I get that coppery taste in my mouth waiting for the sound of an impact.

xLeahx   #4   09:20 am Nov 02 2009

I hate it when I am at home watching TV late at night, or trying to sleep, and I can hear the bass from someones stereo. The thumping of bass through my house is guaranteed to give me a headache, as the more I try to ignore it, the more I hear it, and it just drives me mad.

Also, can't stand snorers, I like complete silence when I am sleeping. If my fiance is sick and knows he is going to snore, he sleeps in the spare room (or I do). It's just not worth feeling grumpy, tired, and mad all the next day due to lack of sleep.

gbsmama   #5   09:33 am Nov 02 2009

Whistling. I cannot stand it, and I feel like a grumpy old cow cause generally people whistle when they are happy but it makes me want to go completely rip-off-their-head psycho.

Cat   #6   09:34 am Nov 02 2009

Those parents weren't bothered one whit because they have developed "selective hearing". This is imperative when you become a parent - the man usually develops it first. Scenario: parents and baby sleeping. Baby starts fussing. Mum is knackered so pretends she hasn't heard baby. Dad feigns sleep. This continues for some time until baby is screaming at top pitch. Dad still feigns sleep. Mother resigns herself to martyrdom and finally gets up to feed baby.

Personally, I can't stand the sound of wool on teeth. Don't chew a jumper around me is all I can say.

Amy   #7   09:37 am Nov 02 2009

Eating noises. My god - I can't bear them. I hate it when people chew with their mouth open, I hate it when they slurp food, I hatehatehate hearing any eating noises AT ALL. They drive me to rage. I actually asked a flatmate to move out primarily because she was the noisiest eater I've EVER heard.

Toddlers? Fine. Bagpipes? I like them. Lawnmowers at 7am on a Sunday? Not a problem. Someone eating a sandwich? Nggggggggggggg.

(It's okay if I'm also eating, so dinner with people is absolutely fine. Aforementioned ex-flatmate would have a snack of cheese and crackers every evening at about 9.30, and even if I left the room I could hear the crunching reverberating around the house.)

Courtney   #8   09:56 am Nov 02 2009

You know that noise people make, when they're about to talk - the horrid click noise when their lips separate? I LOATHE that noise.

Or the click noise when people think they're being cool. Like when they make a gun with their hand and click at you.

...actually, I think any and all click noises bother me. Clocks too. But yet, bones popping is perfectly fine?

My worst exam ever was when I was stuck at the front, and every 20 seconds the exam teacher would make that exact click; only, after clicking, he would also sigh. ...repeat. And repeat. I couldn't take it. On top of that, there was a ticking clock glaring at me. I was sure I was going to throw my desk over and rage like a wild animal.

Louisette   #9   10:02 am Nov 02 2009

Kids yelling/whining grinds my gears very reliably. Like many people who don't have kids, I can't figure out why they can't just be quiet and behave themselves like normal people. So far I have always been very good and have not actually asked some young mum if she would kindly put a cork in it, but I feel it's only a matter of time. Sooner or later it may happen when I've had a bad day with clients/insomnia attack. Ah well, que sera sera.

Certain types of music will also grate my nerves. Christmas songs usually will, but it's really about the intervals; thus I can't stand Toto or the Little River Band, nor can I tolerate the kinds of music you find in a typical modern church. Church music is easy to avoid because I don't go there anyway, but there's a fair amount of pop music that is irritating. We once had neighbours who blasted Frank Sinatra at unreasonable volumes every day during my summer holidays when I was attempting to sunbathe. My options, I decided, were either retaliating by dragging the speakers over to the door and blasting Marilyn Manson at an unreasonable volume, or a sly guerilla attack on the sterio with a hose. Moving the speakers seemed like too much effort.

paul   #10   10:04 am Nov 02 2009

Offensive sounds? Nothing really... until I heard what these guys are making: www.grindhouseaudio.com


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