The pink thing

DONNELLE BELANGER-TAYLOR
Last updated 08:26 27/06/2012

Spiffy

She was wearing eight layers!

My daughter is in the grasp of The Pink Thing. It's a phase well deserving of the capital letters; she finds pink everywhere. ("Mine favourite colour pink! I LOVE pink! Finny like blue. Mummy favourite colour purple.")

It's mostly expressed in her clothing choices. She's still as vocal about her sartorial choices as she was six months ago, but colour is now the deciding factor.  Her favourite combination is a pink polar fleece jersey over a pink and white polka-dotted dress over a pink shirt over a pink skirt over pink pants. Yes, a dress and a skirt. And pants. Oh, and pink slippers. At least she's warm.

I was hoping to avoid The Pink Thing altogether, not hit it before her third birthday. It does make me uncomfortable, and I'm not sure why.  

Perhaps it's simply because it is so stereotypical? Or maybe I'm uncomfortable with The Pink Thing because it seems to be a message passed on from society despite my best efforts; why does she love pink? 

If she's going to be a girly girl, all power to her, though I hope it's not because she thinks it's what I expect of her. Pink is just a colour, yes, but it comes with a whole social baggage of expectations and values. If she likes pink for pink's sake, that's okay. I just don't want all the "Math class is tough!" nonsense that goes along with it.

I don't want her to feel limited by expectations of her gender. I saw plenty of those assumptions when I was studying computer science. It's wrong, it's powerful, and it hurts. Though society is slowly making progress, it still happens today. That's why we get things like this atrocity.

On the other hand, I don't want to her to feel bad for liking pink. So I guess I'll embrace The Pink Thing. But I'll be doing my damnedest to negate some of the other messages society might be giving her.

Did your kids go through a pink phase?  How did you feel about it?

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weka   #1   09:18 am Jun 27 2012

Our Miss 8 is still in a "pink phase" (has been since she was Vieve's age). She sometimes mixes it up with purple. I hate pink as a colour, not because of any of the (valid) associations you make. Unfortunately finding any colour but pink girls' clothes (especially for small children) is quite hard. Thank goodness it is getting easier as she gets older, but I can't see her changing her preference anytime soon.

Jo   #2   09:48 am Jun 27 2012

My neice went through a pink and purple stage (at about ages 2-8 or 9) then a brief goth (everything black) phase - beleive me pink is better! Now she's into Glee and one direction - bright colours and American high school jumpers and jackets. It's all just part of growing up and trying out looks and colours.

gbsmama   #3   09:56 am Jun 27 2012

It's probably easier for you if its Vieve that likes pink, rather than Finn - only (and I mean only!) because its hard to find boys clothes that are pink, or plain girls ones without glitter! I dont think colours should be segregated for boys/girls. I have boys, so dont really look at the girls clothes in the shops, but it does seem to be a stunning array of pink and purple, with a little bit of turquoise thrown in. I say just go with it, dont make a fuss about colours, and she'll probably change her mind about her favourite colour at some stage. Or not!

Lucky#13   #4   10:21 am Jun 27 2012

When I was a little kid my grandad said something to me about looking like a boy in what I was wearing (probably hand me down shorts and a t-shirt). I can't remember exactly what it was he said, but I remember thinking "oh no, people will think I'm a boy". So from that day forward I only wore dresses, pinks and purples. No one would mistake me for a boy ever again. At some stage I got out of that phase, I can't remember exactly when but now I have real trouble wearing anything that isn't black. (It isn't intentional, it just happens). I wonder if someone jokingly said to your wee girl something about being mixed up with her brother and now she's doing what I did? "Look at all my layers of pink. You'll never think I'm a boy wearing 8 layers of pink".

Jen   #5   10:25 am Jun 27 2012

I'm a fan of the colour pink but think it's stereotypical to have an awful lot of girls clothes available in one colour - pink. Hopefully it's just a phase and as you say, Vieve doesn't pick up on the society's expectations of her because she's wearing pink. You'll have all the old ladies clucking at her now even more so because she's in full on pink!

RedRulesAll   #6   10:26 am Jun 27 2012

My colleague, in her 40s, loves and adores pink and wears it as often as possible. And says she loved it as a kid as well. Just go with it. It doesn't have to be Barbie-pop princess. It can be just about a colour choice!

catspaw73   #7   10:30 am Jun 27 2012

Miss 11 went through that phase, starting at about age 2, started mixing it up with purple, and the pink has dropped in amount with blues, yellows and the occasional red creeping in. Don't worry about math class she is of the "math is fun, hard math is even more fun" mind :-)

Mels   #8   10:49 am Jun 27 2012

I vowed and declared that I wouldn't dress my girls in pink. That was until I realised that is all there really is for kids from about 0-3 years old. By then they have decided that pink is for them. My 5 year has now discovered there is more to life than pink and has started to venture into red and blue, both of which look lovely on her.

Aimee   #9   10:57 am Jun 27 2012

Miss 5 is going through a red phase. When she draws the predominate color is red. If she is writing the pen/pencil/crayon/marker should be red. If there is a red item of clothing she will wear that. The interesting thing is that her great aunt gifted her a quilt when she was a new born that was red and white and she spent all of her tummy time hours on it. Her brothers quilt was blue and white and his favorite color appears to be blue. I wonder if this is a coincidence, or of there is any correlation. She does play with pink and say that it is her second favorite color, but I think that is mostly because the other little girls at school like the pink and frilly things. She has told me that when she gets older she is going to be a princess and live in a red castle, so she is blazing her own trail!

Jane Doe   #10   10:59 am Jun 27 2012

I am 24 and love pink. Not every bit in my wardrobe is pink but as a little girl I loved pink. I don't think it is fair to call it a "pink phase" it is what it is. Some will change some will not - however just because she wears pink does not mean that she will be in a 'girly profession'. I am absolutely girly, in fact my profession is a make up artist - but that doesn't mean anything in terms of colours I prefer. I also to this day am Daddy's girl and am always doing the dirty work outside with him, can change a tyre and drive trucks. Colours shouldn't be the way you view your children.


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