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Last updated 11:28 20/11/2009

Sorry to leave you perched there on the edge of your seat, wondering if we won the auction for our first home or not... well, here's how it went.

I had an absolutely manic day on Wednesday and thought I would miss the auction altogether, only to arrive and find there were a good six or seven properties to be auctioned ahead of the one we were there for, so I had some time to perch on the window sill and observe.

To be honest, the whole thing was completely terrifying. I could see people all around me getting carried away and bidding well above CV and beyond. Because there were so many people in the room for the various auctions, we didn't have a clue how many folks were there to try and steal our dream from us.

As it turned out, our auction was a fairly straightforward affair - just us and another bidder. She placed a bid. We placed a bid. She went higher. We went higher.

My little heart was racing as soon as the auction started, and as the price swiftly rose towards our maximum, so too did my heart rate - I'm still surprised I didn't explode right there in the auction room.

So what happened? Did we walk away on Wednesday evening as actual grownups with a house and everything? Unfortunately we didn't. The opposing bidder went over our limit, and even though we loved the house, we stuck to our guns and didn't budge. We were disappointed, of course we were, but it was a good experience (that I hated every second of) and I'm sure we'll find the perfect little place eventually.

Right, enough bitter disappointment for one day, let's get into this week's Casual Friday Five!

211) Did you have a 21st? If so, what did you do? (submitted by Emma)
When my 21st rolled around my parents offered me the same deal they had previously put on the table for my older sisters. I could either have a party or $700. I was going to opt for the party, but then I crashed my car and needed to buy a new one - so yeah, I took the seven hundy and didn't get my party. Lame.

2) What's the strangest thing you have bid on, in an online auction? (submitted by Defying Gravity)
I just had to check out my TradeMe profile to refresh my memory, but it turns out the strangest thing I have bid on (and won - hurrah!) was a lawnmower catcher.

3) According to Tommy Hilfiger, women only need one pair of jeans...how many do you own? (submitted by JCC)
At the moment, I pretty much live in one pair of jeans (the only ones that still fit me) but I have a collection of seven or eight pairs gathering dust in my wardrobe, patiently waiting for that glorious day when I shed five kilos and can get them past my thighs again.

4) What is the most expensive thing you have ever damaged/lost? (submitted by Fraser The Amaazer)
When I was on my restricted licence and still getting to grips with that whole driving thing, I scraped my Dad's BMW against a piece of crib wall that juts out at the bottom of my parents' driveway. That was not a good day.

5) Which celebrity would you like to smash most in the face? (submitted by Studly McMuffin)
Anne Hathaway. Sure, she might not be a total jackass, but I am offended by how incredibly insipid she is, so she gets my punch in the face.

There you go, five questions for you to sink your teeth into and if you're feeling extra adventurous - have a crack at this one... I'm leaving you with a question that didn't quite make this week's CF5. In fact, Greer, if you're lurking around - you might be able to help out Miss Confused...

BONUS QUESTION (submitted by Miss Confused)
Why is it, if you meet a guy on a DATING website, you meet, its all fireworks then he says... Na I dont want a girl friend, things die down, the compliments stop and the texts and conversations are usually based only on sexual terms from here on in. He's not seeing anyone else. But he won't be my boyfriend either, quietly, I'm not sure what the attraction is as I would far better complement him than he would complement me. SO why is it a guy will happily see you several days a week BUT NOT COMMIT, and when he says I don't want a gf, does that mean I have been the girl he shags until finds his next victim to mess with?

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paul   #1   11:40 am Nov 20 2009

1) Did you have a 21st? Yup. Got smashed with 100 close friends and relatives.

2) What's the strangest thing you have bid on, in an online auction? Schematics for a Hellraiser Puzzlebox. Gave them away eventually as a gift to a horror writer friend to celebrate his publishing deal.

3) According to Tommy Hilfiger, women only need one pair of jeans...how many do you own? (submitted by JCC)

1 Pair. And I'm a guy. I also have one pair of non-sneaker shoes and one of everything else I may need too.

4) What is the most expensive thing you have ever damaged/lost?

I lost 1500 kg of cocoa. Yes the brown chocolaty stuff. Not the white powder of Colombian origin.

5) Which celebrity would you like to smash most in the face? Just line up any NZ zed-lebrity and let me at them.

BONUS QUESTION (submitted by Miss Confused) Yes. Sad but true. The guy's a jerk. Vengeance can take many forms. Can I suggest you start by posting about his sexual short comings on public forums?

m   #2   11:41 am Nov 20 2009

Did you have a 21st? If so, what did you do? Dinner at Green Parrot in Wellington, the meals are huge! And the owner with his crooner voice sang me Happy Birthday. Then moved on to the venue with lots of wine, nibbles and great speeches!

According to Tommy Hilfiger, women only need one pair of jeans...how many do you own? Same as Jane about 4 pairs with only one currently being able to actually get past my thighs!

What's the strangest thing you have bid on, in an online auction? Not really much of a bidder but I once bought a dress that turned out to be hideous!

What is the most expensive thing you have ever damaged/lost? Oh man where do I start! I've lost a gold ring with 3 huge rubies in it, I've lost the engagement ring my Dad gave my Mum and so many other pieces of fine jewellery it's just embarrassing.

Which celebrity would you most like to smash in the face? Jennifer Lopez, what a tool.

Hellz Bellz   #3   11:43 am Nov 20 2009

1) Did you have a 21st? If so, what did you do? I did have a 21st and my best friend who had been in England for a show showed up to surprise me which was awesome but she hated my boyfriend at the time, got real drunk and threw her shoe at his car. Good times lol.

2) What's the strangest thing you have bid on, in an online auction? Probably a pair of shoes which is not at all strange. Im pretty boring in that department!

3) According to Tommy Hilfiger, women only need one pair of jeans...how many do you own? Three, two casual pairs and one dressy skinny leg pair

4) What is the most expensive thing you have ever damaged/lost? Value wise it would have to be my first car which was in mint condition when I got in but was covered in dents with the back bumper hanging off within about 6 months. Sentimentally, I lost my Mothers engagement ring, she passed away when I was 13. I think it might be in a shoebox in my Dads wardrobe but I dont want to ask him because then he will know that I have lost it.... :(

5) Which celebrity would you like to smash most in the face? Angelina Jolie Ugggh cant stand the woman.

BONUS QUESTION Unfortunately some men do this, the trick is not to let them. Assholes like that are not worthy of you!

BM   #4   11:44 am Nov 20 2009

1. Instead of having a 21st party I got offered the option of going to Europe. I obviously chose Europe which was a good option as I had far too many embarrassing and criminal stories that could have been told!

2. Nothing too strange. Bid on a huge basket of lollies at a silent auction once. Unfortunately won and got very sick from eating too many!

3. I have four pairs of nobody jeans that I wear all the time and about another eight pairs that come out occassionaly. Yeah I might be a wee bit obsessed!

4. Lost a diamond out of my ring that I got for my 21st, was rather distraught about that but it was insured so had it replaced thankfully!

5. I would looooove to smash Megan Fox in the face, she is such a dumba** or maybe Tom Cruise!

Bonus question - cut your losses and find someone else that appreciates you!

cm   #5   11:48 am Nov 20 2009

1) Did you have a 21st? If so, what did you do? (submitted by Emma) I had a gathering at one of the function rooms above the bars on the strip. It was fun. had a few drinks, and danced the night away :)

2) What's the strangest thing you have bid on, in an online auction? (submitted by Defying Gravity) I bought a metal shower bottom once for $5. We needed something to put under our fridge cos it sat on the carpet and our land-lady was all paranoid it was going to leak and ruin her carpet (which was already ruined by previous tenants). It's really hard to find fridge trays, so bought the shower plate thingee and hubby modified it a little.

3) According to Tommy Hilfiger, women only need one pair of jeans...how many do you own? (submitted by JCC) I own about 10 pairs of jeans. I only wear 2 regularly. The others are either new and waiting to be taken up (cos I'm short and nothing ever fits) or are old and really need to be thrown out, but i can't bear to. And I have two pairs of dressy-up jeans.

4) What is the most expensive thing you have ever damaged/lost? (submitted by Fraser The Amaazer) I hit a pole with my parents car coming out of a gas station. I was only going about 5km/hr at the time, but managed to hit it just right to cause a bit of damage. Luckily it was an old, crappy, toyota corolla on its dying legs anyway, and they just threw it away instead of paying the $1000 it would have cost to fix.

5) Which celebrity would you like to smash most in the face? (submitted by Studly McMuffin) Adam Sandler. Just the sound of his voice makes my blood start boiling.

BONUS QUESTION the guy is an arse and just wants sex. he doesn't sound worth spending another second on.

Amz   #6   11:49 am Nov 20 2009

To Miss Confused - Yes you are just something to fill in his time till something better comes along - no offense to use he sounds like a real a**hole - but sounds like he is just using you for sex, a lot of people on DATING websites are looking for sex and not a relationship - probably because they don't want to go on a sex finder website (more diseases that way)

xLeahx   #7   11:51 am Nov 20 2009

BONUS QUESTION (submitted by Miss Confused)

"I don't want a girlfriend" or "I'm not looking for a relationship right now" actually means "I do want a relationship and a girlfriend, it's just not going to be you".

Sorry to be harsh but he's just not that in to you..... :(

MsM   #8   11:54 am Nov 20 2009

1) I had a great bash for my 21st. We hired the sports pavilion at my old college, all my good friends came and because I was doing a jazz vocals degree at the time we had a massive drunken jam session. It was a right laugh.

2) Weirdest thing I’ve bid on was I guess diamante buckles for wedding invitations. Not that weird really.

3) I have 2 pair jeans, but I don’t particularly like either of them. That’s a rather unusual thing for a designer wanting to make sales to say…

4) Most expensive thing I’ve damaged would be my car, I wrote it off in a rather spectacular accident that I was quite lucky to escape from mostly unharmed. I’ve lost things more expensive than that, but only through burglaries which aren’t really my fault now are they?

5) I’m quite big on having a really good reason for smashing people in the face (common as it is for me) so I’d go for Chris Brown. Does of own medicine and all that.

BONUS QUESTION) Most men are hardly ever really sure of what they want, but what they do know is that they’d like to have their cake and eat it too. However with an attitude like yours “I would far better complement him than he would complement me” I’m not sure you deserve to be treated with much respect by this guy m’dear. Perhaps that stuck-up attitude is putting him off?

Lucy   #9   11:54 am Nov 20 2009

1) My 21st ended up being about everyone else and not me, it definitly didn't live up to my expectations. We'd hired out a function room, put on nibbles and a bar tab, everyone else then proceeded to get drunk and tell awful stories about me during speeches, we had lots of people throwing up in the bathrooms and out on the street, people showed up who weren't invited, we had to pay damage costs after people spewed on the couches in the function room, the older people in my family were horrified and ended up leaving early and I was totally sober because I spent the whole time trying to sort everyone out. It was terrible. I went home early and cried on my bed and mum came in and said, "Well darling, you're wedding will be exactly the same - nothing like what you'd imagined" !? Thanks mum.

2) Strangest thing I've bought would be a mortar and pestle on ebay. It was worth it though, I use it everyday (almost).

3) I have two pairs of jeans. One skinny leg, dark denim pair and one bootleg deep blue pair. They are apropriate for an all manner of occasions.

4) Ooh, I've damaged a few cars in my time. Not exactly a cheap exercise in learning how to drive.

5) Lindsay Lohan. Maybe the punch would knock some sense into her.

Ally   #10   11:57 am Nov 20 2009

Miss confused, he's only looking for something casual. Stop all contact and if he asks why, tell him you respect yourself too much to let him call the shots. Hes obviously trawling the dating site for single ladies to hit on and mess around.


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