One day I received a dirty text from a guy I had been seeing a few months that didn't seem quite right. It came out of the blue (as if it were halfway between a text convo) and just didnt sound like something he'd say to me.

He denied ever sending any text that day and decided it must have been a "telecom error". Needless to say when I saw him in person next I hit him up about it and he finally confessed that he'd been sexting my best mate. Nice. Game Over.

My favourite breakup story, the one I trot out whenever I hear that so & so got dumped in the worst possible way, did not happen to me but happened all around me.

In London, I was dossing on the floor of a couple I will call Mary and Max, and one day, at the supermarket I picked up a bottle of wine and txted Mary to tell her we would share it, it was her favourite kind, and received a message saying "I need it after the day I've had" and immediately I knew that Max had broken up with her (possibly wishful thinking as I HATED the guy) but I didn't ask her that, of course. She got home and looked decidedly upset. Finally it came out that Max had sent her a txt message saying "Are you going to be home tonight?" and when she confirmed and asked why, he sent another saying "Because I'm moving out tonight". Just like that. Via txt message, out of the blue (she had NO idea anything was wrong in their relationship), the night before her parents flew in to London to see them. And! they had been planning to register as a de facto couple so that she could stay in the UK once her visa ran out, which happened to be 5 months after the split.

Also, I don't tell this story to anyone who has JUST been dumped, that is horrible, as the newest breakup is always the worst EVER.

Guy I went out with for a few months broke up with me - TWICE - via text message. Now I realise depending on who you talk to that this may seem as a socially acceptable way to break up with someone, however we were at the point of talking about moving in together, had not long gotten back from an awesome holiday (it wasn't in my head, he said so too). I rang him when I sensed something was up, he actually answered the phone, but then said he was out and couldn't talk, few hours later, it's all over, by text. It was pretty obvious he just didn't have the guts to do it in person, but yes, definitely laugh about it now!!!!

Ummm all I can say to #2 and #3 is WTF?! Idiots! In fact all of them are idiots - who in their right mind would break up with Jane Yee?? Haha but seriously it's like you said - you're better off without guys like that in your life.

I don't really have any incredible break-up stories - they've all been bad and at the time seemed like the end of the world, but none were done in a sneaky/cowardly way.

Aww break-ups suck. Ive only been 'dumped once' I barely heard from him for 2 weeks and he refused to say where he was staying. Then out of the blue he turned up to say he was leaving me. Later found out he was sleeping around. That was when I was about 17 or so and since then I have always been the one to break out the 'we need to talk' line. So I like to think Im pretty skilled at it now with minimal tears involved.

Before my lovely current girlfriend, who I've been with for 3 and half years now, I was with a girl who cheated on me. But she wouldn't tell me (I of course didn't realise at the time). Just made everything between us uncomfortable so as that I'd get upset. Then she broke up with me, wanted me back, broke it off again two weeks later.

Asked her about it at the time when I was trying to deal with it all, but she never would, and still hasn't told me the truth or said she was sorry.

Which is fine on her part, but man did it hit me bad.

hrmmm.. that was nicely cathartic. Thanks Jane.

I had been seeing a guy for about 3 months. Nothing too serious, but it was exclusive. I caught up with him one weekend, and got a strange feeling not all was right. I asked, he said all was good and I let it go. Two days later I got a text, TEXT, saying he had meet someone else who was closer to his age and who he saw more of a future with (there was a significant age gap - around 15 years). It was also the night before a major university exam which I was frantically revising for. I was devastated. I never thought the relationship would lead down the aisle, but I thought he respected me enough to tell me he had meet someone else in person. On the plus side, I aced the exam with 95%.

I had been going out with this girl for about two years, but about four months before we broke up she had put on a fair bit of weight. I hadn’t said anything to her about it, but I used to avoid going to bed till late at night so I didn’t have to have sex with her. Then one day she was trying to initiate something and I wasn’t really in the mood, so an argument started. Then, after a few hours of painful, honest discussion, we broke up.

It wasn’t funny at the time, but looking back on it I figure that there can’t be many guys who can say they broke up with their girlfriend because she was trying to have sex with them!

Poor Jane those are terrible stories! Ive been very lucky- no awful stories to tell. I had 3 break ups in 2008 and all were done nicely (as can be).

Amusing breakup stories:

I was completely not seeing a guy after a drunken snog in a pub, but afterwards he said he wanted to see me again and made plans to catch up the following Friday. No details agreed. I sent him a message on the Thursday to find out what the plans were and he told me by return text that he really wasn't that into me and it was all off. I hadn't expected the drunken snog to go anywhere to start with and since he started the whole "lets see each other again" thing I thought it was just weird. Mutual friends gave him grief for weeks.

Had been seeing a guy for a few weeks, on the rebound from a year and a half long relationship. Wasn't that into it so after discussing with my best friend, decided to break it off. Phoned him, he said "Thanks, I'm off to the pub, see you later". Turns out that not only had my best friend already told him (in the space of an hour after talking to her) but he'd been sleeping with someone else even after asking me to "be exclusive" with him so wasn't too fussed (says something about my dating prowess that I hadn't actually considered that we weren't). Also strange. Also no longer friends with said best friend, but that's neither here nor there.