So you know, interactivity. It's what blogs are mostly about - I say something, you can say something, I can say something back. I know that's what I like most about blogs: I can ask a question or have my two cents' worth whenever it takes my fancy.
I like it when you have your two cents' worth. I love it when you tell me what you have been making and hope that soon we will have a Craftology Facebook page where you can show us all too. I take pleasure in being asked where something can be bought, what an alternative is, or can I come up with a tutorial for a particular project.
The thing is, one not so nice thing seems to outweigh the many more positive things I get. Mostly I think crafters are a bunch of cheerleaders. We like each other to get better and spur each other on, right? I mean, I don't think I can remember ever saying that something was rubbish or poorly executed even if it was. I tend to be more taken with what I like about someone else's effort rather than what I don't.
Take quilting. I'm not sure it's for me. I might give it a go at some distant date but I'd have to find a particular quilting project that really called to me. Mostly when I look at quilts I see days or weeks of labour to make something that is ultimately exposed to my children's chocolatey fingers and then not suited to my top loader. In essence, I think developing an interest in quilting would cause me trouble and stress, which is the opposite of what crafting is about for me. For most people I would think. Is it for you?
Anyway I digress a little. I have been told in the past that I am a ruminator. In other words, I dwell. I can't let things go. So when I had a teeny little negative (but accurate!) comment on the lavender hearts tutorial the cogs started spinning. I think I actually turned red with embarrassment sitting at my laptop. I was swamped with self-doubt and then overcome with a sense of my own inability to do something perfectly. I've said before that I am a bit of a Jill of some trades, mistress of none, so why was I so affected when a reader noted that my stitching was "abysmal"? You can see the substandard stitching just here.
I don't know why it was so galling, I really don't. I have a theory, though. I think it's because I know that many of you readers are much more accomplished on the crafting front than I am, much more creatively endowed, and, frankly, that rankles. I want that to be me. But there's only one way that's going to happen, right? As they say, practice makes perfect and now that I have had several cups of tea and one hefty glass of wine I am going to say a big thankyou to MJ for the "abysmal" remark. I didn't like it but that's possibly because the truth hurts. I can't promise that my whip stitch will be textbook next time but you have kind of embarrassed me into trying harder to make it look better. And that's a good thing, right?
Please tell me I'm not the only one who finds criticism a bitter pill to swallow? I know in my heart that it's better than false compliments but really, you would think I'd find it easier by this age.
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