Being a single dad changed me

Last updated 10:27 09/07/2012
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SUPER DAD: Gary Oldman says being a solo dad has changed his life.

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Gary Oldman says becoming a single father "set a new course for the ship".

The actor has a son, Alfie, with his first wife Lesley Manville and two boys with his third spouse Donya Fiorentino.

His split from Fiorention was acrimonious and he was awarded full custody of Gulliver, 14, and Charlie, 13.

Oldman told Vogue UK that the decision made him rethink his way of life.

"I asked myself a very simple question. Am I a dad who's going to be away working all the time? Or am I going to be a dad who's around at home? And I decided to be at home," he said.

"It set a new course for the ship."

Oldman's oldest son, Alfie, is now in his 20s and while they have a good relationship, the 54-year-old actor said he could have done more for him when he was young.

"I had really felt that I had not done it successfully with my first son, although our relationship was always good," he explained.

"But I felt that I had been given the gift of a second chance. I'd been awarded these children, by the court - which is unheard of in California - and I felt that I now had these boys for a reason."


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