Why can't women take compliments?

NATALIE REILLY
Last updated 11:25 20/05/2013
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Are you a woman? Do you struggle to accept a compliment? Then this video is for you. We're not entirely sure why so many of us feel the need to bat away the lovely things people say to us, although our hunch is it that has a lot to do with the way we're socialised - don't be too loud, don't be too self-aggrandising, make sure you put others first.

Let us turn to the feminist holy book du jour - Lean In - and paraphrase Sheryl Sandberg, who points out in that women are rewarded for being more 'communal' and 'nurturing' and penalised for tooting their own horns.

There are a fortunate few of us who can say 'thank you' and leave it at that but the more common response is usually 'thank you' followed quickly by 'but this dress makes me look like a pregnant peccary' and the reliable fallback 'Oh, you're just being nice", which most of us truly believe!

Watch! And enjoy the hilarious combination of low self-esteem and champagne wit in action.

- Daily Life

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