Noisy sex not necessarily better

Last updated 16:34 03/07/2012
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SORRY, MEN: It's not clear why women make more noise in bed, but experts say it's not because they're enjoying themselves more.

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You can picture the scene. A couple is lying in bed watching the light fitting swing as an amorous pair gets steamy in the room above. Murmurs turn into shrieks and the embarrassed couple clamp hands over their mouths to stop their laughter.

If you always imagine a woman making the moans and groans, you may well be accurate. But that doesn't mean she is necessarily enjoying the sex more than her quieter other half.

New research shows that women make more noise when making love than men - with almost all women in a survey admitting to being louder in bed than their partners.

The UK poll of 1171 people showed a clear split between the way men and women go about love-making.

Of the 566 women surveyed, 94 per cent said that they were louder than their partners in bed, and 70 per cent of the 605 male respondents agreed.

The data, tellingly coinciding with the launch of a new sex toy, called (get ready for it), Sqweel 2, was conducted by

Audible assaults aside, the reasons for the vocal disparity is unclear - but may well be wrapped up in women's apparent need to fake orgasm more often than men, says sex expert, Tracey Cox.

As Cox put it: "One theory might be that since women fake it more often than men do, perhaps they feel obliged to provide 'evidence' that they're enjoying themselves?"

The key, she told MailOnline, is that making a racket in the sack is certainly no indicator of sexual prowess (if not alacrity).

"We need to steer clear from thinking that the noisier the person is in bed, the more they're enjoying it," said Cox.

"Being noisy doesn't make you a good lover, though I heartily support any sort of feedback in bed and noise is one way of communicating."

Rest assured, she said, that a partner making love as silently as a church mouse "doesn't mean they're not enjoying it as much" as those who combine love-making with a cacophony of screams.

-Sydney Morning Herald

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