How to be a social media-savvy bride

JOSEFA PETE
Last updated 13:01 21/01/2014
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He has popped the question. You said yes. Now a stunning diamond ring sits on your finger and you have officially become The Bride.

With the obligatory selfie of the ring posted on Instagram, linked to your Facebook and Twitter accounts, it feels like all your dreams are coming true. But what comes next for today's social media-savvy bride?

Tell family and close friends first

In your excitement, it may be tempting to update your Facebook status to "engaged" the minute after you say yes and post that ring selfie, but it is always better to hold off until you have told family and close friends the news. There could be nothing more heartbreaking for family to find out that you are engaged with a Facebook notification.

Privacy is the best policy

Fifty-six per cent of brides find that the best place to find wedding inspiration is through online resources such as Pinterest, Facebook and blogs.

While ploughing through the internet to find all your wedding ideas can feel exhilarating and you may find yourself in a pin frenzy late into the night, if you do not want to share your ideas, or open them up to the criticism of others, you have the option to keep Pinterest boards private.

Less is more

You have waited for this day your whole life and now it is all you want to talk about. The big day is all consuming and every moment of the preparations is intoxicating.

But this is your day and while many people will be there to share it with you, if your social media updates seem to be a revolving door to your plans, excitement and complaints, it can become a little too much.

Avoid coming across as attention grabbing or annoying by joining wedding forums or following wedding blogs, where everyone is The Bride and the only talk is wedding talk.

Social media is not an invitation scapegoat

While it may be tempting and perhaps easy to consider setting up an event page and inviting everyone to your wedding through Facebook, the tradition of sending out personal invitations to all guests should not be mocked.

Wedding guests need to make a considerable commitment when attending a wedding, from new outfits through to the gift. Show them the respect of inviting them personally.

Making it "Facebook official" can wait

Fifty-nine per cent of brides-to-be change their Facebook relationship status to "married" minutes or even a day before they have walked down the aisle. The only thing that should be weighing down your hands on your wedding day is your fabulous new wedding ring and a gorgeous bouquet of flowers - not your phone.

Everyone who is important in your life has just witnessed you exchange your vows, the rest of the social media world can wait.

A sneak peek is enough

If you cannot possibly part with social media for your wedding day, perhaps assign social media update duties to your maid of honour.

Or better still, snap a sneak-peek selfie for Instagram in the morning and leave the rest for well after the day's celebrations have come to an end, with a couple selfie at the end of the night thanking everyone for such an amazing day.

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Lay down the rules

If you have your own social media rules, be honest and upfront about them. If bridesmaids or guests are not allowed to upload photos, or if Twitter is a no-no on your wedding day, make sure that these rules are clear.

Many ceremonies today begin with a quick explanation of social media expectations from either the celebrant or the priest.

Better still, a simple sign sitting on an A-frame outside the ceremony, explaining your social media expectations for guests, can save everyone any social media faux pas.

Enough is enough

While social media has certainly changed the landscape of wedding announcements and planning - not to mention wedding days themselves - there needs to be a time when every bride switches off.

Moments are there to be shared, but every moment deserves to be savoured first.

- Sydney Morning Herald

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