It seems kind of ironic, ok maybe more shit-from-me, that I've been way too focused on writing about how to plan a wedding... and forgetting I actually had to plan it.
It was OH-SO smooth sailing to begin with: venue, date, bridal party, boom boom boom. A little bit later, wedding dress. Boom.
"I am soooooo good at this wedding planning shizz!" I thought to myself. WRONG.
You see, I let some things slide. I let complacency in to sit on my lap by the fire and curl up in a little ball and have a wee nap. I thought 'Yeah, I can do this relaxed 'see what happens' vibe thing'. I AM wedding ZEN.
But time has flown by and now with less than six months to go to the wedding, I've found I'm still not even half way through the list of 'to do' that Cosmo Weddings magazine so kindly likes to remind me of. I constantly compare myself to other couples getting married around the same date: "They've booked what? They've sent out stuff to who? Aghh".
Anyway I had a point to this. You see my complacency, OK it's actually just bridal laziness, means that now I've got around to little ol' things such as booking some vendors, and the ones I want are - HARK - booked already!
Nooo! Don't they know I am getting MARRIED on that DAY? HOW could they dare book another job! It's not like they're trying to run a BUSINESS or anything...
It's taught me a lesson. One that this little thinks-she's-so-organised-Virgo had to learn the hard way: it's never too early to make contact with vendors you want involved in your day.
While it used to give me heart palpitations in previous years when people asked me in June what I was 'doing for New Years' (I'll be sunning myself on a beach in Tahiti with my HUSBAND this year, woo!), I now realise that everything people older and wiser tell you about time going by really fast is absolutely true.
It's like you plan and you plan and you make rough plans and suddenly the day is there when you'd planned to have your plan and absolutely nothing is planned.
My latest example? Hair and make-up.
This was one of the things on my list that I was never that concerned about because I knew it was just a matter of making a decision, booking it, paying for it and we're done. No biggie.
But the more I got in to researching all the options (full salon morning package? Airbrush makeup? Bridesmaids do their own hair? Travel to a salon or get a mobile stylist? Hair up or hair down? Split between vendors or all in one? Get a local or pay someone to travel?), the more I delayed my decision which only meant one thing: I missed out.*
I had planned, for example, to use a local business that future husband's family use. To be fair, I just thought it would be a given that I'd use them. They'd be available; not too much else happening in this small country town on that date 'cept our wedding... surely.
Bow-bow. She's booked that day. I went to option 2. Also booked. Ech.
Now I'm about to make the call to number three. It's my lucky number so wish me luck!
How far ahead did you book things for your big day to ensure you got to use businesses you liked or supported? Did you miss out due to bridal blinders like me?
*Before anyone suggests I just 'do my own make up', no thanks. Not for me. I do it every other day of the week and it's a special day and I need extra heavy-duty beautifying, and I'm not too proud to say that. It's a long day, gimme the pro make-up!
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