Screw tradition, a trendy trend at the moment is for an engaged couple to have a "first look" or "sneak peak" of each other before the ceremony.
Bad luck for the superstitious, but there are a few reasons why couples do this; from minimising the nerves at the "big" moment, to getting photos out of the way so that immediately after the ceremony the couple can kick on and party with their guests.
I get it. I mean, I think I get it. It's practical. It makes sense.
(But the thing for me is that weddings aren't practical things. If they were, I would have had a registry office wedding with the minimum two witnesses... But generally we don't do this as we want the ceremony to be witnesses by our loved ones.)
So yes it's practical to get photos out of the way before the ceremony so you don't leave your guests "waiting", but I don't know, maybe I am superstitious?
I asked Future Husband about seeing me before the ceremony and he specifically said he wants to see me for the first time as I come down the aisle. (Cute!)
This of course will build up the anticipation and raise the probability of me tearing up and/or bawling like a small child from 80 per cent to 99 per cent. But that's cool, wedding days are supposed to be emotional - in a good way.
So while "first looks" and sneak peeks aren't for us, I'm interested to hear from those who have had photos before the wedding. Not that they'll have anything to compare it to (unless they've been married multiple times...) but I wonder how different it makes the walk down the aisle?
(On another note, this article mentions a good point: keeping your outfits clean for the ceremony! Hadn't thought of that! Yes you might look all nice and fresh in the pics, but to your guests you may look as though you've been dragged through a bush backwards, quite literally).
Does the ceremony generally start later with less "waiting around" time?
The time between the ceremony and the sitting down and seeing the bride and groom return can be awkward.
I'm hoping copious amounts of food, drink and entertainment in the form of a photobooth will help keep everyone happy until the full party kicks in. I've been to some weddings where the couple has been away for three or more hours (!!!!!) and I think that's a bit silly and it tends to be most people's "complaints" about the photo shoot after the ceremony.
As a kind of half way between sneak peek but not sneak peek, I think we might do something like this:
I really like the idea of being near each other on the big day, but not ever seeing each other at this time until you get the photos back. Then it'll give me time to have a wee waaaaaaa, reapply makeup, then kick on!
What do you think? Are you planning on photos before the ceremony? What's the best setup so the day flows well for everyone? Were you or are you superstitious about seeing your partner before the ceremony?
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