Wedding trends I don't understand: Part 1

20:15, Aug 28 2012

I'm sure many of you read with horror this week about the newlywed woman who died in her wedding dress during a trash the dress shoot. 

A colleague, who read the story, turned to me (as the one-stop knowledge shop for all things bridal, it seems nowadays. I can talk about non-wedding stuff too, guys!) and asked "So why do women trash their wedding dress?"

I actually had nothing.

"They umm... ahh, you know, you've got this dress and err... yeah nah, no idea actually."

And I really don't have any idea.

I get that wedding dresses are very sentimental. I get that they are often expensive and seen as "pure" or "special" or whatever.

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I don't, however, get the need to "trash" it - except for maybe if the marriage went sour.

According to Wikipedia, it's art - daaah-link. You know, taking things out of context. Yada, yada. That's all well and good and I'm the first to admit I don't understand all art forms.

But there are different types of trash the dress shoots, though, so I think it's important to differentiate. One of the favourite ones I've seen was in Rarotonga and it involved the couple and they were swimming underwater in their full gears. It was hot and sexy, and most of all they looked happy and so clothes-tearingly in love.

I've also seen this awesome set of photos where they did bombs into the water from a big rock.
I get that. I get the need to want to do a bomb. (Insert "taking the plunge - literally" pun in here.)

But then there are these dark, moody, melancholic trash the dress shoots which look like a mix between scenes from Twilight and Edward Scissorhands. They look SO depressed; a bride, coated in mud and sitting in a tree above a murky creek with spooky lighting and cobwebs in her hair.

They look, and excuse my phrasing considering the opening line of this post, like corpse brides. How is that hot?*

Then there are the just "WTF" ones, like this: "Behind you! Look! There's a train coming and you're looking emo while sitting on the tracks!"

And this:  "Um. lady, you're lying on train tracks and there's a creepy dude creepin' up on yo'."

There's no way I'd ever want that image of me blown up and put on a canvas to hang in the lounge of our home.

But somehow I think I'm in the minority because a whole lot of brides-to-be are asking me "OoOooo are you gonna trash the dress?" and I always politely say "I don't know? Um, maybe?"

I love the thought of symbolically trashing it as a "goodbye to pureness" but it's fair to say those days are, *cough*, well gone. Hah.

And I like the thought of having a lot of fun doing it - whether it's doing some bombs, or throwing paint at each other, like below. But hold the mud, please.  

Would you or did you do a 'trash the dress'? Seen any great or terrible ideas?

* Rhetorical question. Please don't answer, that's sick.

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