Wedding woes: Maid of what?

Happy Monday, everyone! Hope you had a great weekend. Mine was AMAZING - if you want to know why, you just have to read this. 'Nuff said, eh?

Anyhoo, I'm on leave this week but decided to tear myself away from my beloved to write a blog post. Now *that* is dedication.

This week's reader's question comes from Sandra and I thought it was a good one as I hadn't really thought about it, or heard these theories. 


Hi Greer,

Like everyone else I love your blogs so thanks heaps for writing them.

I am going to be Maid of Honour for my best friend and don't really know what I am supposed to do. I've read lots of websites that say my role is to organise the hens' night and just be there for the bride to do whatever is required. I would love some advice from brides of what they wanted their MOHs to do or what jobs the MOH should do.

Also, what is expected for the MOH to pay for? Some websites say I need to pay for the hens' night so I'm not sure what the norm is for MOH expenses.

My best friend is amazing and I just want to make her day as perfect as possible so any advice would be much appreciated.

Thank you,



First, I've never been a MOH so it's all new to me too.

I appointed my MOH based on the fact that she's my bestie, she knows me the best and is reliable so I know she'll be there for me.

She also knows my other two bridesmaids and she's easy to get along with - which is crucial when coordinating a wedding day with a number of people.

I'd never really thought of her having a specific "role". I guess I just assumed she'd be the organiser of the hens' party - which she is - but the other BMs are helping out also.

And I guess I'd assume that she was chief helper-out-erer. For example, if I had some outlandish request, it'd be up to her to a) do it or b) tell me I'm being crazy and convince me to do something else.

But the one thing I don't expect? Her to pay for the hens. What the hell? That's outlandish! (Isn't it? Really? I mean do people expect this?)

Looking at this list, I'd expect a couple of things (hold my bouquet, please!) and help me get dressed (though I don't need four people to get me in to my dress, I don't think).

I wouldn't expect: dancing with the best man (cool if she wants to, but she's a petite 5ft nothing and he's 6ft 4in, sooo...) and storing my dress until I return from honeymoon (see previous explanation, she may battle to carry it, hehe).

My advice, as a bride-to-be, is to offer something that is as free as anything: advice. Even if you aren't married, you've been chosen as her MOH because she's relying on you to keep her feet on the ground. She wants you to be honest (no matter what, and I really do mean that) and she already trusts that you'll do everything in your power to make her day that much more special.

What did you or do you expect from your MOH? Any advice for Sandra?

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