Little things make marriage deliciously ordinary

20:49, Aug 05 2014
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Legally wed: Russell Chappell, left, and Thairone Human are among the gay couples who have married in the past year.

The simple satisfaction of being able to refer to his partner as his husband is the sweetest part of married life, Thairone Human says.

Human and Russell Chappell were pronounced partners in life during their civil union. Since the Marriage Amendment Act came into force last year, that has changed. 

''It makes a difference to be able to call him my husband,'' Human said.

Human and Chappell tied the knot last December. Chappell knew nothing about it until he was standing in their back yard with friends and family around.  Human announced they were going to get married - there and then.

It was a wonderful day, Human said. ''For us, it was our way of celebrating that we could do that. Celebrating that we could be just the same as everybody else.

''You want to be able to feel like you're the same as everybody else.''


Not a lot had changed since, Human said.

The men have been together 13 years. They had a civil union in 2009.

Allowing gay couples to marry was a matter of fairness. ''When it was legalised it was such a great move for everyone because everyone deserves to be treated the same,'' Human said.

Fran Wobler and L-J Baker - who were the first same-sex couple to marry in Manawatu last year - said it was the little things that made married life great.

When they both received their New Zealand citizenship this year they were registered under ''family''.

A small victory, Wobler said.

The wife-and-wife were also the first Manawatu couple to register for a civil union at the Palmerston North registry office.

A total of 807 same-sex marriages were registered since the law was introduced last year to June this year, according to data released yesterday by Statistics New Zealand.

The Marriage Amendment Act came into force on August 19.

Manawatu Standard