Kiwis reveal their sex problems

Fairfax

TIRED OF WAITING: Infrequent intercourse is one of the most common sexual problems reported by Kiwis.

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Lack of sexual desire and infrequent intercourse are among the most common sexual problems experienced by New Zealanders, according to a survey.

Massey University student Laura Buckley carried out the study in conjunction with Sex Therapy New Zealand (STNZ) to identify the types of sexual concerns for which help was sought and to explore whether the ways in which sexual problems were diagnosed were appropriate.

The study found that those making referrals for sexual problems often focused on the symptom such as lack of desire and early ejaculation. Traditional models of sex therapy had also been symptom oriented.

"We have to look beyond the symptom and find what the cause is in order to bring about lasting change," STNZ director Robyn Salisbury said.

"While New Zealanders have taken on board the medical language of contemporary sex therapy and are now talking more openly about sexual dysfunction, I believe it will always be our style to demand a down to earth, practical approach to sorting out the problem.

"What this research tells us is that is exactly what is needed. One man's erectile dysfunction may result simply from not enough direct stimulation; another's may indicate that one or both partners have not learned how to become more intimate after the initial lust period has burned itself out, a third may have a plumbing problem and require medication."

The study found lack of desire and infrequent intercourse were the two most common reasons New Zealanders sought sex therapy. When this was explored in therapy these sexual concerns were found to require an integrated treatment approach in order to deal with the underlying relationship and intimacy concerns.

Ms Salisbury said the study identified that both New Zealanders and professionals working in the sex therapy field needed to always consider a broader relationship context when finding solutions to sexual concerns.

"The potential complexity of sexual problems suggests that specialist help is required to enable the appropriate solution to be found."