I wish my daughter was not forever connected to Tony Veitch
On Sunday an article written by sports broadcaster Tony Veitch was published by his employer NZME, where he said he made a "huge mistake" in assaulting Kristen Dunne-Powell in 2006.
This is Kristin Dunne-Powell's father Steve Dunne's response to that article.
In the 10 years since Tony Veitch broke my daughter's back, she has rebuilt her life completely.
We are immensely proud of her resilience and the person she is.
We do not dwell in the past and we have followed her lead in moving past this.
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However, I wish she was not forever more connected to this man.
I have witnessed her pain again today, on what should be a special day for her and our family.
The constant reminders of this public case also haunt her as she attempts to go happily about her daily life.
So, as Tony puts our case back into the public arena, our family question what do we do?
Stay silent, and just let it go ... say nothing. Is that the best way I can protect my daughter and other women in abusive relationships?
New Zealand Herald's own editorial tells us not to do this.
"Silence can too easily be misinterpreted as condoning the act. More often, silence will be hiding the hearer's utter disgust". So the New Zealand Herald allowing Mr Veitch's self serving propaganda (again) astounds us.
And positioning him as part of the solution is an insult to all true victims of this tragic issue.
If this "apology" showed genuine remorse, it would have been given privately to our daughter.
She has never received one. So who gains from this public "apology"? And actually is it an apology at all? Tony, to atone for your actions, you must stand in the complete truth.
This was no one-off, as you still attempt to mislead the New Zealand public to believe.
The other charges were never presented to the court, but they remain evidence of your systematic abusive pattern. In those files lies a very inconvenient truth for you.
Through Kristin's charitable work we have met many former perpetrators of violence who are now White Ribbon ambassadors and I encourage you Tony to seek their help and support, so you may genuinely and deeply face your abusive actions, with integrity. And truth.
WHERE TO GET HELP
• Women's refuge crisisline: 0800 733 843
• Lifeline (open 24/7): 0800 543 354
• Depression Helpline (open 24/7): 0800 111 757
• Samaritans (open 24/7): 0800 726 666