Legal option after bullying

KENT BLECHYNDEN/ DOMINION POST

LONG RECOVERY: The 15-year-old had to spend three weeks in hospital.

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A family is considering legal action against a school after a girl was bullied for so long that she lost 12 kilograms, spent three weeks in hospital and had to move to another school.

The children's commissioner has described the case as "completely unacceptable" and said she would be prepared to investigate.

And a lawyer is warning school boards that they could be prosecuted by parents whose children suffer emotional harm as a result of bullying.

The parents of the 15-year-old victim said St Mary's College in Wellington did not do enough to stop the ordeal, which started in August 2007.

Though the bully had written an apology letter to the victim, her family said it was still seeking answers from the school board.

The victim informed the school counsellor when the bullying started, but was told it was just "girls being girls" and would "blow over", her mother says.

But it did not blow over. Instead the victim said she endured taunts and rumours for a further seven months at school.

The girl's mother said her daughter developed an eating disorder, lost 12 kilograms and spent three weeks in hospital recovering. The claim was backed up in a letter from a clinical psychologist that was sent to the school.

"After assessment it was clear that [her] weight loss was not due to concerns about her appearance but rather was as a tool to help her maintain control of herself during an episode of bullying by girls at school."

The parents removed their daughter from the school, but said the taunts continued, with bullying text messages.

St Mary's principal Mary Cook said the school did everything in its power to deal with the situation.

"The issue with bullying is that it is very difficult to deal with and isolate. It does not matter what a school does, it can never be resolved completely. We do everything we possibly can."

Meanwhile, a lawyer has warned that it is a statutory requirement for schools to take all reasonable steps to prevent bullying from occurring while pupils are at school.

"Failure to take such steps could result in criminal prosecution and hefty fines," John Miller said.

Children's Commissioner Cindy Kiro said it would be a "sad day" if bullying victims started taking legal action.

"It's not a route we want to go down, that's the American way. It is an option, but it is the least constructive option."

The victim's mother said the family was keen to explore legal action. "Definitely, we would be keen to look into that area.

"All schools have different approaches to bullying, but St Mary's seems to be: keep it quiet and deny, deny, deny."

LETTER TO VICTIM

Letter from the bully to the 15-year-old victim after she left St Mary's School.

"I don't want you to have to leave all your friends because of all this shit. I am so sorry for everything. You have no idea how bad I feel. I would do anything to take back what's happened and everything I have said and done, not only to you, but your friends.

"I know that we will never be friends, but I want us to be anything but enemies. I am so sorry for everything that has happened in the past year. I hope you get better soon and that this letter means even a little something to you."