DJ shares anguish of long battle to conceive

04:09, Sep 05 2013
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TRIALS AND TRIBULATIONS: Jay-Jay Feeney gets a kiss from Nixon Scott, 1 at the book signing for Jay-Jay Feeney's book Misconceptions at the Page and Blackmore book shop in Nelson.

Radio host Jay-Jay Feeney says if she gets pregnant all of New Zealand will know about it.

"Oh, you'll know. I'll have a big banner flying behind a plane going around the country."

The Edge breakfast host came to Nelson yesterday for the release of her book Misconception, which details the trials and tribulations of going through the IVF process.

Feeney said the book outlined her fertility "journey" and why she had not yet conceived a child with her partner and fellow host, Dominic Harvey.

"Stress of course," she said at the Page & Blackmore's book signing.

Ms Feeney has been through two rounds of IVF treatment and suffered one miscarriage in a so far unsuccessful eight-year battle to conceive.


She was approached by publishers to write the book and thought it would be a good chance to raise awareness, she said.

"It's weird. I'm a radio DJ, not an author, but no-one talks about having these issues.

"I mean anyone who goes through this sort of thing can look on the internet but you don't want more information, you want real stories, from real people," she said.

Ms Feeney said writing the book was a challenge.

"There were definitely moments where it was really difficult to write, it's so personal and intimate. You feel so exposed. I felt sick until it was released, actually.

"I remember there was a point where I was shaking after writing the first chapter," she said.

But she had received largely positive feedback since the book's release.

"It's nice to see people feeling exactly the same way I have. You would be surprised how many people share the same problems."

Twenty per cent of women suffer fertility issues, she said.

Nelson woman Vicki Scott said she was excited to meet the radio host she had listened to for "years and years".

While Ms Scott did not have any trouble conceiving her two children, Carly, 3, and Nixon, 1, she did suffer a miscarriage before the birth of her first child.

"I know what it feels like to have things not go according to plan," she said.

Jay-Jay's journey was such a sad story, she said.

"I know they've got their little nephew, Seven, but it is quite a different experience to have a biological child."

Ms Scott was happy to see her son giving the celebrity a kiss. "Nixon is a bit of a ladies man."