Kirstie Fisher tells why she is unashamed of her relationship with her first cousin.
"Lyle and I are first cousins. We are related by our fathers who are brothers, yet my father and Lyle's father were never close and lived on opposite sides of the country. In 1995, my uncle and his two kids, Lyle and Melanie, flew over from Victoria to attend a family wedding. I immediately thought Lyle was cute and I instantly wanted to spend all my time with the cute, older cousin. At the wedding Lyle and I were paired up together as dancing partners and while another cousin (who will deny everything now) also thought he was cute, Lyle and I spent a lot of time together.
Tragically, a few days later our grandfather passed away and while it was a sad occasion, it meant more time I could spend with Lyle. When Lyle, Melanie and my uncle returned to Victoria, I kept in contact with Melanie but after a while our letters stopped and I didn't give much thought to them.
At the age of 15, Lyle got in contact with me thanks to the help of my brothers and for a few months we communicated via MSN and text messaging. While I was excited to be chatting to him again, I was also older and I pushed aside any feelings I had for him, although we both admitted that we were attracted to each other, as much as teenagers can be.
At the age of 17, our aunty passed away and Lyle and Melanie flew over to Perth for the funeral. I hadn't seen Lyle in eight years and as soon as I saw him it was like I was a giggling school girl all over again. He had grown up and he wasn't just cute any more. To me, he was gorgeous. Over the course of the week that he was in Perth we grew closer and there were many stolen kisses when no one was watching, or a grab of the hand. We spent a lot of time texting each other even if we were sitting in the same room. In the back of my mind, I thought it was wrong because he was my cousin, but at the same time the attraction was strong.
A year later, I ventured across the country to Melbourne and we spent a week together being hermits in a hotel room as well as being tourists in a big city. After that week we talked about me moving to Melbourne and while I really wanted to, the negative thoughts outweighed it all and I just couldn't bring myself to go.
In 2005 I had my oldest daughter to another person and I know that it gutted Lyle that it wasn't his daughter. We chatted on and off for the next few years and in 2008, along with my daughter Miranda, now eight, I headed to Queensland on a holiday to visit Lyle, whom had moved there a few years previously. After two weeks, Lyle's mum, Jo, confronted us and said that she knew something was going on and handed us a stack of paper telling us that it was OK for us to be together. A huge weight lifted off my shoulders and a few days later we were engaged and I was heading back to Perth to tell my family, pack up my things and move back to Queensland
In all honesty, my family's reaction didn't surprise me. My father told me it was wrong and disgusting and I now haven't spoken to him in almost six years. My mum was very much the same but after a few months she realised that I was happy and now she is happy for us. Two of my brothers aren't really bothered but my oldest brother and Lyle's sister Melanie don't agree with it. But they both know we are happy and I think that's what matters most to them.
The extended family, cousins, aunts and uncles, are the most negative. After six years, they are still gossiping about the fact that Lyle and I are together. They are very vocal in saying that we are disgusting and gross and it's wrong.
Since 2008 we have welcomed two sons and a daughter into this world. Alex, four, and Zachary, seven months, are growing up quickly, but sadly, our daughter Danica passed away during labour, which had nothing to do with our relationship.
There are plans to get married but there is no rush. We have had many people congratulate us and support us but we have also had many people with negative comments, and whom we never hear from again. But we don't really care. No one can say anything to us that we haven't heard before and the most important thing of all is that we are happy. Without Lyle, I am not a complete person. He is my perfect other half. We are happy, our kids are happy and to be perfectly honest, who are we hurting by being together? I love Lyle and I won't stop loving him just because people perceive us as wrong, or disgusting.
Before anyone judges us, do your research and educate yourself."