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The parent trap: Hindsight a great teacher

MIRANDA BARNES
Last updated 05:00 30/10/2012

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My biggest learning is about food.

I've figured out that if I had just said: That's what's for tea, end of story, and not provided other top-up crackers and cheese later, when they were 2 years to 5 years, I would not be still there battling with my nearly 11-year-old.

He still won't eat macaroni cheese, baked beans, yoghurt with lumps, quiche, or anything slightly interesting.

My problem was, I guess, that I was anxious to avoid their disapproval (at the early ages), when hello, I was going to get it anyway, better to receive it from a two-year-old than a 10-year-old.

Feed the kids what you all eat, nothing special. If they are hungry they will eat it. But have the stoicism to stick by your guns and not give toast etc... after tea.

No pudding unless you eat your veges. Do not, however, advocate clean your plate or else, because that creates eating issues.

If they are not hungry then fine, they can stop eating. Keep the plate of food for later when they are hungry, though. There should be no skipping the meal to get the pudding/toast later.


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