Loved ones remembered: A little lost one
My son Adam was stillborn April 5, 1993 - 20 weeks too soon. Five weeks too soon to be considered a dead child. He was instead classified as a 'product of conception after spontaneous abortion'. A more hideous term I cannot imagine and one I refuse to acknowledge.
He was not alone. Six weeks earlier his twin had also passed away.
My son was perfectly formed - all organs and limbs present, only still.
So very still.
He never felt the sun on his skin or the wind in his hair. He never got picked on by his big brother or out-smarted by his younger brother.
Yet we knew him and we know him still. He and his twin are not forgotten. They are an important part of my family and always will be.
Time has not diminished the loss, the grief, the pain. I am in tears as I write this.
Each year as his birthday rolls around only five days after mine, I remember him and the gifts he gave us.
Rest in peace my little one. Mum loves you and misses you so much.
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