Parenting is hard, we all have bad days
Parenting is hard. I am happy to help other parents out when I have it together, and would really appreciate someone helping me out when I'm losing it.
And yes, I know it was my decision to have children. You really don't need to remind parents of this when their child does something you don't like.
We are all aware of the choices that were available, and some of us even made a conscious effort to bring the little cherubs into the world. That doesn't mean that we always know what we're doing, or that we're never going to make a mistake.
Would you help someone change a flat tyre? Would you return a wallet to someone that left it on the bus? Would you appreciate it if someone did this for you? I'm genuinely interested in whether this "parent your own children, it's not my problem" attitude is a movement in society in general, or whether it's specifically related to bringing up children.
Why is it such a big deal to help each other out? We all have bad days.
I know that it's not your responsibility to explain to children why they can't do something instead of ignoring them or "telling them off", but could you just do it anyway. It's a nice thing to do.
You are potentially making a small difference to that child's life. And whether or not their parent notices or cares is really irrelevant. In fact, if you believe the parent is not teaching their children respect, doesn't this make it even more important that they are shown respect by others?
We learn by example, and if we want to live in a society that respects each other and helps one another out, children need to be exposed to this type of behaviour. The 'I'm living my own life, get the hell out of my way' lifestyle is not going to help anyone in the long-run.
It's clear that the "it takes a village to raise a child" mentality is lost in New Zealand. I don't know why, and I don't know what we can do to bring it back. I wish I did though.
Is it OK to tell off someone else's kid? Do you take issue with someone telling your kids off when they are acting up? Click the big button below to let us know what you think.
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