Adventures in online dating
READER REPORT: TRACEY D'ARCY-WRIGHT
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My first experience with online dating was through the website NZDating in 2006. I knew a few people who had had a little success with meeting people, and since I was having none it seemed worth a shot.
Once the initial flood of messages died down I started conversing with a nice guy and we decided to meet up and see a movie. We were the only people in the theatre, things took a turn that I was not ready for and I walked out halfway through.
I was convinced the stereotypes of online dating were true. It took another year before I was ready to give it another shot.
Once I did rejoin, my inbox was flooded with messages. Some seemed nice, others seemed convinced that my profile was just a secret code for 'please send me a photo of your bits. I am desperate to see your bits'. There was one person I really seemed to connect with. We arranged a date, I didn't hear from him again for six months.
After a couple of weeks, I decided online dating wasn't for me. I signed in to delete my account but saw I had a couple of messages. I figured I might as well read them and one seemed quite nice. I sent back a quick, offhand response then went to get a drink.
By the time I got back he had responded again and it actually made me laugh out loud. We ended up chatting until 2am. That was a Monday and our first date was the following Saturday.
Five years later, to the day, we were married. My flower girl was our three-year old daughter, the ring-bearer our one-year old son. When we got back from our honeymoon I found out I was pregnant with our third bundle of awesome.
There are some very, very dodgy people in the online dating world. But there are also genuine people looking to making a real connection if you give them a chance.
It has now been seven years since I nearly deleted my account and I am glad every single day that I checked my messages first.