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'I won't have children and it breaks my mum's heart'

NICOLE RICHARDS
Last updated 11:49 19/09/2016
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"The highs and lows of being a step-parent were extreme and made life very hard. They helped me decide I didn't want my own children."

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Growing up I thought my future would always involve me becoming a mum.

I "played mum" with my dolls and always imagined what it would be like. I have an amazing mum and would have been very happy if I was just like her.

When my sister had a baby at an early age I had no idea about the overwhelming love I would feel for my niece and it increased my desire to have that feeling for children of my own some day.

But this all changed when I met my partner. He already had children and I constantly struggled with being a step-parent. The highs and lows were extreme and made life very hard.

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You love them dearly, but don't always necessarily like them and seeing them return to their mothers at the end of the week was always a relief.

I knew it would be different if we had a child together, but made the decision that it was just not going to be for me. This was not an easy decision to make and to this day it still breaks my mum's heart.

I know I would have been an amazing parent and know I will have a small amount of regret when I am older, but that's OK.

I still stand by my decision and with his children now having left home I couldn't dream of starting again from scratch. Bugger that!


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