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Freedom first, not kids

SIMON MANEY
Last updated 05:00 16/12/2013

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I am a single, middle aged male without kids.

When I was younger, having a family seemed to be the obvious thing to do, but by around my mid-20s I realised that the prospect of having kids was at odds with the lifestyle I was living, and enjoying.

By my mid-30s I had perhaps even developed a very mild phobia against having a costly, time consuming, noisy, smelly kid. Like, just maybe.

By most accounts I believe I could have been a good parent, but I always shuddered at the thought of such resposibility while I was living with the freedom of doing what I wanted, when I wanted.

Boiled down it sounds very selfish, but I think it is important to note that no-one has suffered as a result (although my body does feel like a bit of a wreck some days).

At times I feel I have to justiy my decision, like now maybe, but I don't have any definitive awnswers, just my story.

For what it's worth, I am now approaching 50 (yeow!) and as usual, my head is a muddle of future adventures and possibilities. Having kids is not one of them. Base Jumping? We'll see.


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