My reasons not to have kids

Last updated 05:00 15/12/2013
NOT FAIR: I don't want to have a child that will have to grow-up either being mentally ill, or having a mother mentally ill, writes Chloe Merritt.

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I'm 25 and since I was about 16 or 17 I've not wanted kids. Partly, this is because I've been working in the customer service sector (mostly restaurants and supermarkets) where you do get to meet the World's Most Annoying Children.

However, that has not been the large deciding factor in why I don't want kids. There are three main reasons why I don't feel I'll ever want to have kids.

Firstly, I don't think I'd make a good mum. I don't have the patience for kids. I see my niece every week, and most times, after about four hours, I'm ready to not be near her anymore. People tell me it'll be different when I have my own kids. My reply to that is if that's so, then there would be no bad parents.

Secondly, I'm from a ridiculously large family - my grandfather has 50 grandchildren, not counting the greats, and the great-greats and the great-great-greats. In this large and sprawling family, we have got a plethora of defective genes, mental illness mostly. I don't want to have a child that will have to grow-up either being mentally ill, or having a mother mentally ill. Living with or being mentally ill isn't something I'd knowingly inflict upon an innocent child.

Thirdly, I believe that in order to have kids, you have to be in a good stable relationship. Since I'm highly unlikely to ever enter into such a relationship (as Lizzy Bennett in BBC Pride & Prejudice said, "Only the deepest love will persuade me enter into matrimony" or there abouts).

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