Felt like I was 'dying' during birth
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My pregnancy went okay, I guess. I had severe morning sickness and didn't gain much weight until I was six months along.
In fact, I lost nearly five kilograms in the first three months. I was offered medication but decided against it.
I felt great from six to seven months and absolutely loved it, then my last two months were horrible.
I gained so much weight (25kg) and my blood pressure was so low I would nearly pass out every time I stood up, or if I was standing for longer than five minutes.
There were lots of signs that indicated my son was big. My pubic to top of bump measurements were big. At 34 weeks I measured 40 centimetres and by my due date I was measuring 48cm.
My scans (last one at 20 weeks) always measured two to three weeks ahead in size.
I went into labour on my due date and baby finally arrived two days later.
My labour failed to progress and I was left for 24 hours in full blown labour without dilating past 2cm. I had a stretch and sweep twice.
I then had to be induced, after 24 hours.
I had gas which was lovely for a while. I was then given pethadine which I later found out I reacted to. I was hugely confused, disorientated and hysterical due to the reaction.
My baby was posterior and after two hours of pushing (by this time I had been in labour for 36 hours) my midwife said the baby's heart rate was dropping.
This freaked me out even more, I begged for help - a ceasarian, anything! I needed help. I wasn't given any help.
Finally my baby was born weighing 10 pound 14 ounces. I was the talk of the hospital.
I haemoraged, then I passed out with chest pains. I had ECG machines and doctors everywere. I was that badly bruised they were going to send me to surgery but decided to try 'packing out'.
I honestly felt like I was dying. I couldn't hold my baby. I was so weak my partner did the skin on skin. Then I was left on a blood-soaked bed for hours.
I was assisted to the shower then put back on a bed. In the middle of the night we were wheeled through the hospital to a room furthest away from the doctors' station.
I couldn't get out of bed as I had a catheter on the opposite side of my bed to my baby. I was absolutely scared out of my brain.
Later my midwife said the hospital apologised to her, saying that there were no staff to help me as they were really short.
My whole experience was traumatising. My recovery was long. My tailbone was broken. My pelvis and hips were excrutiating.
I couldn't sit, walk or move without extreme pain. My midwife told me it was normal with big babies and I should have had a c-section.
By the time my baby was six months old I was finally able to walk without pain. I am petrified of having another baby but do want my son to have a sibling.
Next time will be a while away and with a different midwife and a c-section for sure.
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