Learning to love ourselves - at any size

Last updated 05:00 20/06/2014
FEEL GOOD: We need to love ourselves, no matter what size.

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Loving yourself.

It's hard isn't it?

Let's think about this.

Think about how much you love your family, friends, pets. Think about how much you love your mum and dad and how much they mean to you. Think about your children, doesn't your heart burst with love?

Why can't we love ourselves like this? Are humans incapable of loving themselves like that?

Society and all those inspirational Tumblr posts say how we must love ourselves like we love others.

Yet why do so many people hate on selfies? You can't tell an entire generation to love themselves and then give them a hard time when they do.

That's right, I said it: selfies are a form of self love. They are good for self esteem. 

Women and men need to learn to love themselves, no matter what their circumstances are.

Three years ago I was a gym bunny that had no social life, but I loved myself because I spent so much time on myself. I looked at my body continuously for imperfections to perfect.

As time went on, I got bored of the gym and a social life started to bloom, making the gym go down the priority list. Fifteen kilograms later, I have less love for myself. Why?

I am the same person, with the same moral values, who is still kind and giving, yet I have extra fat on my body. Should I love myself less? Should others?

I had never before felt the pressures of media and society like I do now.

But you know what, it's all in our heads. If we stop to think for a moment, we all know the too-beautiful-to-be-real women and men on the covers of our magazines are photoshopped to the extreme. We all know celebrities have full time chefs, personal trainers, and hair and make up artists surrounding them 24/7. So why?

You are not more ugly at 100kgs than you are at 60kgs. You are beautiful no matter what the number on the scale is. No matter the amount of bulge, you are beautiful. Muffin top or not, you are hot! Repeat that to yourself. Over and over.

Say the wonderful things you would say to a lover to yourself. Tell yourself you are the most gorgeous person you have ever set eyes on.

Look at your body and think of all it's been through.

If you've overeaten because of a tough time in your life and now have some jiggle to show for it, look at it and see the hard times you have gone through and come out on top. It is just fat, and it can be lost.

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We need to change the way we look at and interact with our role models. Stop looking at role models and wanting to be them. Look at them and appreciate their beauty, and then look at yourself and appreciate yours.

Comparing yourself to others is a sure way to destination: unhappiness.

I'm not promoting obesity, but I am promoting loving yourself no matter the amount of bulge you have. Eating a balanced diet and frequent exercise is most definitely a part of self love.

When you take the time to look after yourself, you learn to love yourself more.

One roll, two rolls or even 10! You are beautiful, unique and special.

Now repeat to yourself...

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