READER REPORT:

'You are your worst critic'

DANIELLE BALMER
Last updated 05:00 09/12/2013
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LIKING WHAT YOU SEE: The only way to fight insecurities is to have a sense of self resolution, you are your problem but you are also your solution.

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As part of a generation where self image is everything, I question what is really at stake and whether it is worth what people go through these days to look and act a certain way.

I am a girl, and I have been exposed to the harsh realities of trying to be the perfect human. Celebrities and Hollywood are the biggest contributors.

Magazines and those in social networks have the power to say and do whatever they like in order to attract public interest.

I went to high school, I've seen the insecurities girls like me have; will he still like me if I have my hair a certain way? Will I become popular if I lose those extra kilos?

Where is this coming from? Apparently in order to get a guy to like you you need to spend a fortune on yourself and starve yourself. At what point is this acceptable?

We have become so caught up in our self image that it detracts us from the big picture - true happiness, success and quality of life. It messes with our heads, to point where there is no return.

There are documentaries on young women with low self esteem, eating disorders and suicidal thoughts. It saddens many to think that New Zealand has one of the highest youth suicide rates. You cannot suggest that self image and worthiness is not a factor in a young adult's choice to harm themselves.

Indirect pressure from social networking sites to look a certain way is harming our youth.

I am not denying that there is promotion of accepting the way you are and cherishing this, but is it enough? I spend hours on myself if I am going out at night or if I am trying to impress someone.

There is a mental struggle within ourselves so that we simply can't see our natural beauty. I have a friend who is a guy and he tells me almost every day that I am perfect the way I am, but it just isn't enough.

The importance of first impressions is everything. If we didn't spend hours on ourselves then would we still be accepted as widely as a first impression if we didn't bother?

Self image is our friend but is also our foe. If we continue down this path then at what point is there no looking back?

Botox, plastic surgery, throwing money at a self image won't make insecurities go away. The criticisms we have of ourselves will not go away, there will always be something. You are your worst critic.

The only way to fight insecurities is to have a sense of self resolution, you are your problem but you are also your solution.


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