People who claim money isn't important have probably never been in a cold sweat at the eftpos machine, cried over a dishonour fee, or delayed going to the doctor. They don't have to explain to children why we can't go to the movies and why it's a big deal when a polar fleece or school shoes are lost.
We have two primary school- aged children and our joint income is around $75,000. I am part-time and earn $15,000. With all the after-school activities involved, my income is limited by my time.
My husband and I are lucky in the big scheme of things. We have a small mortgage of $75,000 on a house valued at $280,000. Our property needs some work and we've got a 20-year-old vehicle. I wonder about the sense in putting the cost of a newer car on the mortgage? We lease some land and own some sheep which should pay for itself. Our money just never seems to last from one fortnight to another. We find it so difficult to save - have you got any tips?
Comedienne Rita Davenport once said "Money isn't everything, but it ranks up there with oxygen".
The author Jane Austen put forward the opinion that "A large income is the best recipe for happiness I ever heard of".
Even Arnold Schwarzenegger managed to hit on the point that only the wealthy try to disengage the link between money and happiness, when he said "Money doesn't make you happy. I now have $50 million but I was just as happy when I had $48 million".
For the average Kiwi family, money is vital and most of life's decisions are dictated by it.
I'm sure your situation is very typical of a large majority of families and you will have hit a note with a lot of mums and dads when you talk about the missing polar fleece being a big deal.
While it might feel like an unintended advantage, the one thing I can see pretty clearly is that your own struggles will make your kids into well rounded and sensible adults.
Like you say, the big picture for you and your husband is perfectly reasonable. You have low debt and just over $200,000 of equity in your property. In your position a lot of people would borrow a little more on the mortgage to replace the car and fix the house up. If you want to consider this, you need to be armed with information.
My tips are:
1. Make a list of the likely bills you will face on the old car. Decide if it's old and reliable or old and a money-pit. If it's a money-pit, upgrading could actually save you money in the longer run.
2. Research the cost of the upgraded car and make sure you fully understand what effect it will have on your mortgage. If you buy a $15,000 car, your mortgage will go up to $90,000. The fortnightly repayments would increase from $390 to $470, if you have a 10-year mortgage at 6.4 per cent. Over 10 years, it's an extra $80 a fortnight and you will pay back just over $20,000 more.
3. Add in the price of the house renovation and run all the numbers again (use the mortgage calculator on sorted.org.nz).
4. Prepare a detailed fortnightly budget for the family - get out your bank statements and look at where you are spending money. Is there room for the mortgage repayments to increase, or will you have to extend the length of the mortgage?
As for saving, you should both consider speaking to your bank or adviser about KiwiSaver.
I know the minimum contribution has gone down to 2 per cent, but really push yourself and see if you can make it 4 per cent. Ask your employer what your take-home pay would be and weigh it up. Ask about options outside the default scheme and think about signing up the kids as they get the $1000 kick-start and you don't have to make contributions if you can't afford them.
In the broader scheme of things, saving money is a simple formula: increase your income, or start cutting back and spending less. There are no magical get-rich-quick schemes. It's a hard grind and easy to fall off the wagon. It doesn't sound to me like you are extravagant spenders. It sounds more like you wish you had a bit more income. That is not going to happen without some serious intervention from you. Are you pushing yourselves to get promotions, or are you sitting comfortable, not wanting any more responsibility?
As a mum, you have the limitation of working 9am to 3pm and it's fair enough that you want to be part of those after- school activities. Working within that restriction, is there anything you could do to improve your income? Mums often hold the key to changing a family's wealth.
Janine Starks is co-managing director of Liontamer Investments. Opinions in this column represent her personal views and are not made on behalf of Liontamer. These opinions are general in nature and are not a recommendation, opinion or guidance to any individuals in relation to acquiring or disposing of a financial product. Readers should not rely on these opinions and should always seek specific independent financial advice appropriate to their own individual circumstances.
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