Bryan and Jo Guy hope the truth about who killed their son Scott will be revealed some day.
"We want the truth, of course, but it's not something that we're going to let eat us up inside," Mr Guy said yesterday.
"There's no point dwelling on it, because I would go insane. One day, maybe, the truth will come out, but it's not for us to spend our lives on a mission to find it.
"It's somebody else's job to do that. We've got to move on."
For now, the Feilding couple have accepted the justice system did its job in finding their son-in-law, Ewen Macdonald, not guilty of shooting Scott Guy outside his rural Feilding home in July 2010.
But that is not to say Macdonald will be welcomed back into the Guy family fold when he has finished serving a five-year jail term for six other crimes that surfaced during the murder investigation, including the arson of an old farmhouse on Scott and wife Kylee Guy's property, and the vandalism of their new home.
"He's not part of our day-to-day lives any more," Mr Guy said. "There was so much trust lost when he admitted to those other things.
"That alone was enough to destroy the trust we had in him, and it's caused us a lot of pain and hurt. I dare say we'll talk to him at some stage - he's still the father of my grandchildren, so there won't be any avoiding it - but we won't be making an effort. I don't have anything to say to him . . . that's my feeling at the moment."
Mr and Mrs Guy, who spoke candidly for the first time yesterday since Macdonald's murder trial, said they could not say whether the verdict was correct or not, as they had not sat through the entire four weeks of evidence.
"Whatever we think, it doesn't bring Scott back, it doesn't make us feel any better," Mr Guy said. "We knew before the trial started that there weren't going to be any winners come out of it, whatever happened."
Their daughter Anna, who was married to Macdonald at the time of the killing, was coping remarkably well considering the upheaval her former husband had caused, Mrs Guy said.
She had been upfront "straight away" with their four kids - Finn, Jack, Lucy and Wade - about the fact that their father had been arrested for killing their uncle, she said.
The children had visited their father in jail a few times, but had not been for a while.
With the trial now over, the entire family were looking to discover a new kind of normal, Mr Guy said.
"It's not just losing Scott. Over the last two years, I've lost my father, my nephew [Andy Marshall] was murdered over in Perth, Kylee and the children have moved to Hawke's Bay so we don't see them as much as we would like to, not to mention Ewen no longer being part of our lives.
"That's a lot of people missing and it's had quite a big impact on us," Mr Guy said.
Seeing less of Scott's children, Hunter, 4, and Drover, 2, was another sad side-effect of their father's death.
"I do miss them. On a lot of trips to see them, I've cried all the way home because I think those little boys should have a dad. They're a part of Scott."
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