Public displays of affection are a no-no

Last updated 10:02 10/08/2012

She straddled his waist and stroked his balding head as his hands freely roamed her acne-addled back. He leaned in close and they began sharing the contents of their mouths in a fumbled, squelchy kiss.

Some saliva dribbled enticingly down her chin and it smelled as if he'd had garlic recently.

No, this isn't my own attempt at writing a multi-million-dollar erotic novel. It's what I witnessed at the bus stop the other day.

Public Displays of Affection (PDA for short) seem to be becoming an acceptable part of society. Everywhere I go lately it seems that some couple wants to take up my line of view with their unnecessary loving.

It's a controversial issue. Some people don't seem to mind who sees their most intimate moments (some even want people to see, but let's not go there ...), while others like their affection to remain private.

I, for one, am fed up with my eyes burning.

I want to make this clear early on - I'm not a prude. If you want to re-enact 50 Shades of Grey/Gay/Grandma in the privacy of your own home then that's 100 per cent all right with me ... just don't force me to witness it in public.

Sure, some gestures of affection can be sweet and romantic - think holding hands, a sneaky peck, hugs.

But that's where I draw the line.

I think it should be within every human's rights to be able to walk down the street (or catch the bus) without having to unwittingly participate in some person's open-mouthed tongue kissing, groping or stroking.

I know there's the argument of what constitutes a public place. Personally, I think sitting in a shaded corner of the park or a secluded beach is different to going for it in the middle of the movie theatre or the mall.

And there are many types of PDA offending- online (I love my boo soooo much; here's a self-timer picture of us kissing), underwater (people seem to think they are suddenly invisible under the water at the town pool or Hanmer hot pools), and drunken (sloppy canoodling after a few margaritas is the most acceptable form in my opinion).

Some of you will tell me to leave the happy couples alone. You'll say they're swept up in their first flush of love and can't keep their hands off each other.

Well, I'm not buying it.

I know plenty of people who are happily in love (myself included) who manage to get their kicks without pashing each other's faces off in full view of the whole world.

Sure, a few gestures may slip out occasionally, but save the heavy petting for when you get home.

Some things just don't need to be seen.

What's your take on the issue? Do you engage in PDA or do you keep it PG in public? Comment below, email me at or follow me on Twitter.

- © Fairfax NZ News

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Pol   #1   10:09 am Aug 10 2012

Yuck I hate PDA! I saw a young couple pretty much doing the deed in a park the other day. I felt like a pervet just watching. I agree whole heartdly with this, keep it to yourselves people. I don't want to see!

AF   #2   10:17 am Aug 10 2012

my friend and i were once swimming at Barceloneta Beach, Barcelona. The beach and ocean were packed, you could barely move. I lost my friend and was looking around for her when i noticed a couple engaging in a little more than PDA in the ocean, in full view of the world. Not even subtle. God, i love Spain.

Jett   #3   10:17 am Aug 10 2012

Two words: Dry humping. So disgusting yet so common.

I'm with you, let's ban all the public dry humpers.

Agree   #4   10:21 am Aug 10 2012

I don’t know if this counts…but last weekend I went to the toilet in a bar in Christchurch (won't say what one) and two people in the stall next to me were having REALLY loud blatant sex.

They didn’t even care people were waiting. I couldn’t believe it.

Foriegner   #5   10:32 am Aug 10 2012

Kiwis are so conservative. Overseas we like to show our affection and if someone doesn't like it stuff them!

crowsfly   #6   10:35 am Aug 10 2012


Niamh   #7   10:36 am Aug 10 2012

Love this! Good to see a bit of fun up on your website Press not just doom and gloom and earthquakes. Keep it up!

Jonts   #8   10:39 am Aug 10 2012

Hahahaha loved the intro, nearly wet myself in the office. Thanks for the laugh

P.S I so agree

Jonathon Cameron   #9   10:44 am Aug 10 2012

I'd sure like to share my lips with you Anna for a good ol' snog!

Andy   #10   10:46 am Aug 10 2012

Well I'm not the hugest fan of a public pash, hand holding, hugging or the like.

However, I do seem to develop a penchant for public pashing after a few drinks, something which flames through the years have come to find out, and unfortunately various work function photos can verify.

Pot kettle black much!

Enjoying the articles btw Anna

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