Mum has 'no regrets' after shaming daughter

23:28, Jan 14 2014
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The photo of a contrite young girl being shamed online by her mother went viral.

Who's the bully?

A North Carolina mother who punished her daughter for bullying is being accused of being a cyberbully herself after she shamed her daughter by sharing her photo online.

Cara Schneider had her daughter pose with a green sign that reads, "My name is Hailey. I am a kind caring, smart girl, but I make poor choices with social media.

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Cara Schneider, an avid Crossfitter, says she didn't expect the photo shaming her daughter to get spread around as much as it has but has no regrets about it.

"As punishment, I am selling my iPod and will be donating the money to the charity Beat Bullying in hopes of changing my behavior as well as bringing awareness to Bullying. Because bullying is wrong."

Nearly 40,000 people have shared the photo after a Canadian radio station, Hot 107, posted it on Facebook. But reaction has been mixed.

"So publicly shaming your child is the answer?’" wrote one woman, Kim Lavallee Simard. "That seems like bullying to me. Sure, sell the ipod and limit social media, but to put your child’s face there to give yourself credit for what you think is good punishment is a little backwards.’’

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Jackie Wegren wrote that discipline was appropriate but naming and shaming a child online was not. "Public humiliation, as a grown up, is also bullying!!!"

But others have defended the mum, with some saying that their own children were bullying victims.

"Yes, it is the correct answer," wrote TKay Michel. ‘‘Bullying thrives in secrecy. Bringing it into the light is the only way to stop it. And this mother isn't bullying her child; she’s teaching her daughter to take responsibility for her actions & also teaching her compassion by walking a mile in her victim’s choices.’’

Schneider, an avid Crossfitter and gun enthusiast, wrote that she had tried other publishments such as grounding and manual labour, but nothing had gotten through to her.

"I kept the picture up on a FB yard sale site long enough to sell her iPod and took it down. I never intended on it getting spread like this," she wrote.

But she added, "I don't regret a thing. Being a parent is hard, and it's always easy to judge, but remember... You only see a picture. You don't know our story.’"

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