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'Feminist' is a badge I told my daughter to wear with pride

OPINION: As the mum of daughters, I worry when they say things like: “Mum, will you be happy for me when someone asks me to marry them?”

Nadine Rubin Nathan

This couple got engaged during a 1100km cycle event

"I got down on one knee, and she said yes. Then we got on our bikes and rode the last 60km."

5 lockdowns, 9 flatmates and 7 chickens

How a 'hippie commune' of Gen Z students and creatives have filled their lockdown - and their backyard.

What you should consider when it comes to freezing your eggs

'There’s never been one night without an I love you'

The mother of all jobs: The reality of being a single mum

Disabled and male in a masculine, ableist society

From high school sports to going on first dates, Shakti Krishnan’s uncomfortable life experiences helped him redefine masculinity as a wheelchair-user.

Why I absolutely love (and hate) Love Island

OPINION: For the past 57 days, there has been a ritual in my house. Get home from work, start watching Love Island, and continue questioning all of my life choices.

Lost socks and dad jokes: Being a father in 2021

A Shortland Street screen, a couch from The Breaker Upperers

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This couple has hosted 500 weddings in 10 years

Mark and Fiona Rammell met when he was a pilot, and she was a maths lecturer. Now, they own a Wellington garden and events venue. This is their love story.

Four new Wiggles and a non-binary unicorn

The Wiggles band doubles in size, putting gender equality, diversity and inclusivity firmly on the global stage.

How one netball game gave me a new sense of belonging

OPINION: I was bad at sport, but it also felt like sport didn’t want me. Until I joined a social netball team.

How the National Party could learn from John Key

OPINION: John Key might have been polarising, but he knew when to take the high road, says Polly Gillespie.

Food, wine and a lockdown love story

A 15-year age gap was an initial barrier for Lucy Mucth and Daniel Dew, but after lockdown, the couple decided to set up a home - and business - together.

'I’m not your dorter' - notes from a gay dad

Our household might look different...but what lies within these walls is most definitely a family, and one I never dreamed I’d have growing up.

Dear Petra: Why the double standard on sex toys?

I would be angry if he had judged me for having sex toys, so why am I so grossed out by his?

I got my queer girl confidence from drag queens

OPINION: Drag is deliberate, it is artistic, and consuming it taught me to love and embrace myself like no motivational speaker, Instagram hashtag, or lovingly misguided pep talk ever has.

Knowledge is power — but often, it's not being shared

OPINION: When it comes to women's health, we still have to fight for information. But why?

'When will you be home, daddy?'

Just over one per cent of men take paid leave, and a new study reveals just a third qualify for unpaid leave. The Govt says it will conduct a review.

Coming out as trans in your 70s

It took 73 years, but Jean Smale can finally look in the mirror and be happy with who she sees.

How good ideas get ignored in an economy built for men

Real men eat meat, drive big cars, like to build things and think Greta Thunberg is a whiny schoolgirl... right? Writer Katrine Marçal thinks this kind of thinking is holding us back.

Drag trio bring 'Les Femmes' show to Wellington

The performers say the visibility of drag in New Zealand has exploded since 'RuPaul’s Drag Race Down Under' reality TV show.

The politics of disrespect

OPINION: Conservatives claim Māori rights, and transgender issues aren't being debated. They are, and the conservatives are losing.

Ask Val: My 13-year-old has come out as polyamorous

This week, my LGBTQI+ teen came out as being polyamorous. In no way was I prepared for this.

Merging colleges would be 'a mistake'

OPINION: The zoning controversy is not an opportunity to make single-sex education a culture war target.

Study looks to define term of 'rough sex'

Researchers are investigating the origin of the usage of "rough sex", asking people to share their experiences of it for a study that will explore links between apparently consensual sex and sexual violence.

We need to talk about perimenopause

Too many women are soldiering on and chalking up pre-menopause symptoms to just being part of life when they could be getting help.

'Allan was not a criminal'

Thirty-five years since Homosexual Law Reform, men still fight to clear their names. Allan Aberhart is among those whose convictions have been wiped.

Shame and secrecy: Being intersex in Aotearoa

Up to 2 per cent of the population is believed to be intersex, but many have no idea until they go through puberty or try to have children.

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